strugling to keep it together.

[yumimumi]

I found out wer having a 4th boy yest. im deverstated but thought i was ok 2day. but i cant look at baby girl clothes or anythink pink 4 a baby, i cant read about lil girls on forums and i cant bring myself to c my neighbour as she has a baby girl. al i do is burst into tears!! i didnt think i was goin to b this bad! i feel guity as of course its ment to b a happy time and all i can do is be sad! Am i the only 1 or is there other people out there?? i feel alone, nobody understands xx

[adgal]

It's ok to feel that way. Don't feel guilty at all.  I remember my aunt going through a tough time when her 4th boy was born, she has so wanted a little girl.  And you know it doesn't mean your going to love him any less, your just a bit disappointed.  I'll tell you though...those 4 boys of my aunts are adults now, and are so so very close.  Something special about brothers.  

[Lesley27]

No thats something you have to express and deal with, its understandable, but give it time... i think lots of women secretly go thru this more then they let on... and it does go both ways...  too make matters worse you have those crazy pregnancy hormones that can make it that much worse... but take some time and it well get better... it doesnt mean you dont love this baby its just a disappointment when you were hoping it was a girl so bad... im sorry and i hope you feel better soon :(

[stacey10]

gosh I never find out, its always a surprise for me :)

[leesha89]

ive been thinking about this alot i have 2 girls 10 weeks with 3 rd baby i want a boy not another girl it sounds horrible but im really dreading finding out the sex i think id have a breakdown to have another girl

[bimbicat7]

us too, our 4th boy found out a week ago devestated and feel guilty as we should just be grateful for a healthy baby, im here for u too, it get better and im only a week post finding out! i had to give away all the pink things i had been keeping as i will never have any use for them now :( its blue all over again! i will never ever have a daughter and i will never be able to buy pink, im hurting silently *** well no-one understands xx

[stacey10]

sorry about sp mistakes b/feeding wriggling boy!!! lol

[stacey10]

nope your not alone I had 4 boys in a row then out poped a girl and I have since had another two boys with the last being born in may and the whole family wanted a girl :) nut he is soooo gorgeous, healthy and purfect and we all love him to death, your morning the loss of what you thought you were having, give it time, you will love this new little baby boy, for the wobderful unique little man he is :)

[amy8702]

No, you're not alone. My best friend has 2 boys and her entire pregnancy she was told she had her baby girl. The day she gave birth, out came a boy! She had the hardest time looking at him for the first day. But, he's almost 2 months now and she's doing great. When he was born I told her just think, it was a blessing to be able to have a healthy child. (I have lost 4) and it made her realize that no matter the gender, she created that baby and he will always be a part of her.

[Linzola1]

No your not the only one. I found out I am having boy #3 and was pretty upset. I am fine now and am just happy I can have another baby and as long as he is healthy I am happy!!! It's hard and if you need to talk im here