She is welcome to post here whether she takes your advice or not. No one can tell her she is unwelcome. Please refer to MedHelp guidelines.
You can offer honest advice without being harsh or judgmental. We are here to SUPPORT one another, not berate one another. The Moderators will not allow this post to continue if people cannot be kind to one another, and that would be a shame because this young lady is in a tough time in her life and needs our support. She was not trying to get pregnant. she realizes this is not the time in her life for a child, but if she IS pregnant then nothing you or I say will change that, and what she will need is support.
Thanks for being understanding and treating each other with respect and kindness,
Co-Community Leader Ashelen.
Ladies,
I think that the messages about teen pregnancy are really important.
I really hope that Isha is taking these messages to heart. If you are not pregnant, take this as an opportunity to protect yourself until your life is in a different stage. Not all of us get married before children, or settle our careers, but since you've stated that you are not actively trying to get pregnant I'm sure you recognize that while you COULD step up and be a good mother, this is NOT the best time in your life for such a thing.
I think perhaps this would be a good time to move on to another topic until you've either gotten your period or received a definitive test. I don't see any reason to harp back and forth on differing opinions how that they have been stated.
I appreciate everyone staying so calm and not being rude to one another, but at this point there's not much more to say.
Hope everyone has a great evening!
Sincerely,
Co-Community Leader Ashelen
There is no such thing as enough hormone. Pregnancy tests are able to pick up 20 miU of hCG, and as hCG doubles every 48 hours it would be able to detect it within a few days. Most women who don't find out till they're further along are women who tested once early and ignored it or tested wrong.
In fact, I had a killer headache today, so as a precaution I took children's acetaminophen. It tasted good and worked. :)
I took one a week ago, but it was too early. And I took the second one wrong...That would be why there are directions...Haha.
So I'll be taking another tomorrow or later. I just feel like maybe I won't produce enough hormone. Some women can tell really early, and some can't.
Please don't start lecturing me about my age again.
Thank you Mommyjeep :)
I'm glad you're happy.
Haha, oh, toddlers are a pain, aren't they?
My youngest brother is 5 so I've recently experienced that.
I love mud, so boy or girl, I'm sure we'll do all sorts of fun things
to make sure they stay happy and feel extra loved by momma.
I have 10 siblings and 7 cousins, ranging from 1 to 21,
so there is SO much baby stuff left over it's not even funny.
I'm sure that I'll not only get hand-me-downs, which were already
promised, but baby showers are a dream come true.
And I plan to do cloth diapers because in the end they're cheaper
and they're much healthier for baby and the planet.
I'm very happy, and don't worry, they're not getting me down. :)
Haha, his mom doesn't support anything, but she's a little psycho.
She lost her husband 14 years ago and has a lot of paranoia and
other problems, and for some reason she hates most of the people
my boyfriend talks to. Me the most.
But he's supportive and loves me, and my family and friends are all
here for me, so I'm not worried. :)
Sorry ladies. I don't mean to sound snippy.
But I think you guys shouldn't be so quick to judge or be rude.
I'm not going to "play house". We've been best friends for 2 years,
and we've spent a lot of time with "sleep overs" or just taking the time
to each other to see what it would be like together.
Now it's to the point where we're going to be living together, so instead
of being rude, be happy for me. I realize not everyone was mean. Like
Mleo, Mrz Bagz, First_time_mom, etc. They weren't mean or judgemental. They were giving suggestions. Not lecturing me about teen pregnancy.
I'm graduating and have a job, the dad will be in the picture, and my friends and family support me. What about this situation is wrong?
I'm not a smoker, I don't do drugs, I don't have any weird diseases, I don't drink, and I'm not a partier. I'm headstrong and a good student.
I'm also not necessarily naive, so much as I'm just not bothered.
Babies are work. Thank you. I know this.
Babies are expensive. Yet again, thank you. I know this too.
It's not like I know nothing. I think you older people on here need to stop
picking on people before you know anything about them, and if you're going
to be rude, stow it.
Focus on your own babies or pregnancies. Too much negativity is really bad for you.
I'll be going to the doctor sometime and I'm not sorry for being excited at the possibility of pregnancy.
I'm not sure that saying "find better jobs" is really the right choice of words. In the economy we have right now, people are lucky to find ANY jobs let alone well paying ones. It's easy to look at it on paper, but reality is harder than that. You clearly however do not want the advice, so it's wasted to say anything otherwise.
As for when to test, anytime after you're late is fine. Some women don't show on tests, but this is uncommon. When you see your doctor make sure to request a beta blood test and find out your hCG levels.
Look, ladies. Save it ok? I'm almost 18, It's not like I'm actively trying to get pregnant, but I wouldn't mind it. And seeing as this is the first time I've ever missed a period and had bizarre symptoms, I'm only assuming it could be possible.
I don't need to be treated like a child or like I'm uneducated. I've raised babies my whole life, and it's really not a big deal.
Babies are not a problem nor a nuisance. I don't see why you older women are so negative and grumpy all the time. You need to learn to enjoy life more and smile :)
The part that ***** is the financial part. Don't take that out on your kid or me. Take that out on yourself to either get a better job, or find bargains.
I'm going to be moving in with my boyfriend shortly, I'm trying to find a second job, and I'm going to a tech college. I've got things figured out.
How about you guys just sit down, take a breather, and try not to judge people. Ok?
I just wanted advice on the best time to get a definitive yes or no on a HPT, but it seems like there isn't really one. It could happen anywhere from fertilization, to two months in.
I'll be going to the doctor this week.
I wish I waited with my 1st.. I was to young. But I'd wait longer, and don't jump the gun, this time around everythings been slow! Drs and blood work was 2weeks apart, but a month for the ultrasoud, month for next dr, and weeks seem longer.. Don't tell yourself when ur due, the dr will orde an ultrasound and tell you how far baby is. You can also give yourself symptoms, giving it to much thought. I'd wait for a baby I'd your that young and trying, it's not as enjoyable. I know.
I did, but I took it too early i think. Haha, it's really tempting when you have it right there. I'll try again either tomorrow or the next day, but I need to go in to the doctor anyway. My throat has been acting up since Friday, which I relate in no way shape or form to the possible pregnancy, so I'm going to get it checked out. Make sure I don't have Strep again.
Have you done a pregnancy test from the store yet? I would do one before going to the doctors.
Haha.....I guess having Trypanophobia isn't the greatest to mix with pregnancy then....I'll have to learn to suck it up, but isn't BP increase and then rapid decrease bad for a baby? That's the key thing that happens, and I wish I could control it, but sadly I can't. I pass out or worse.
I'm going to the doctor either today or hopefully tomorrow.
I'll try to get vitamins too.
Yeah. If you are pregnant, you will be getting poked with lots of needles.. there's no way around it.
If you really feel you're pregnant, start taking a prenatal vitamin.
Go to a doctor asap
I'll try to go tonight, but if I'm unable to, I'm hoping for tomorrow or thursday.
:)
I almost wonder if getting too excited is bad for me haha.
Hi.am all smiles as am reading ur post...it sounds exciting!!I think u sh'd go to the dr as soon as possible and they'll tell u what's next.As for needles,there is no way around that i believe coz there be so many blood tests every now n then and believe me am not a fan of those but it isnt as bad as u'd think.All the best.
I'm not trying to downplay what the other moms have said but I will say this. The first 3 years of my sons life was a breeze. Now that he is 3 he drives me up the wall pretty regularly :) I love him to death but he gets bored easily so letting him play outside in the mud everyday is a must. For my own sanity mostly :)
As for necessities. Most of my sons clothes are hand me downs. My sister in law has 2 boys so I lucked out on that but even then my husband has a fantastic job in the oilfield so it gives us more money to spend on other things. Also something you may want to look into is cloth diapering. It is rather expensive up front but in the long run saves a fortune. Once you get over the whole washing poo out of diapers thing :) you can message me if you may be interested and I can give you more info :)
If you are happy don't let others get you down. I got married at 19, found out we were expecting 6 months later and had him at 20. And even though I was married everyone except my family had an issue with it so I ignored them. I hadn't even left the hospital with my son and my parents were asking when the next one would be here so if your family and his are supportive just be happy :)