overreacting?

[Cassie19957]

My bf recently got a new job. We live in the same town and he goes past my house everyday (never stops) lucky if I get to see him 2 nights a week. I only get to talk to him maybe 2 hours a day.then when he finally has a day off he doesn't get home til late. Apparently fishing is more important. I'm after crying atleast 6 times today. I can't deal with this til his job is done and that'll probably be around the same time I'm due. I'm use to seeing him all the time and the fact that now we barely talk is really getting to me :'(

[proudFTMTeTe]

if u tried all u can u need to let him go n focus on your baby if he isn't trying to treat u how u want to be treated leave u dont have to stick around n if he doesn't want to co parent n not step up to his responsibilities his lost but stop stressing n crying over a boy who can't be a man its not good for u or the baby his lost he going to miss out on the most precious person in life

[Cassie19957]

I've talked to him a bunch and he doesn't say anything. We've known since 5 weeks. Both our families are excited but it doesn't seem like he is. Honestly seems like he doesn't care about me or our baby.hes says he's there for me too but I just want him to be involved. I'm pretty much doing all of this without him

[MaddiesMommie14]

I'm sorry to hear that. But maybe he's just not ready to be a parent or maybe he's just in shock and needs time to adjust. Either way you need to get him to sit down and talk with you about the future of the baby and your relationship so you can start to plan accordingly or not give you any false hope about the situation. Once you have a better understanding of where he's coming from it'll be easier for you and you won't feel as bad or confused about everything.

[Cassie19957]

He goes to work on quad. He stops in other places on the way home but not mine. I told him I was upset and he stopped at his friends right next door. Didnt even bother coming to see me. Like yes I understand he needs time for himself. But I feel like I'm going through this all alone

[Cassie19957]

I'm 19 and he's 20. He lives with his parents and I mine. I want us to live together but it hasn't come up. He will barely talk about the baby. Doubt he will talk about living together.

[taianasmum]

I agree with maddiesmommie. It could help you guys have more time together since he's probably too tired to come over after work

[MaddiesMommie14]

You live separately? When the baby comes do you still plan to live separately but stay in an active relationship? I would feel weird or awkward if my boyfriend lived somewhere else and we were still in a relationship when the baby arrives. I understand that not everyone co-habits but it seems more logical to save money by maintaining one household, especially after the baby arrives. It'll also be easier for both of you to help each other out and care for the baby. Have you all talked about this at all? If so, maybe he just wants some space before he has to give it up when the baby arrives.

[Cassie19957]

I've told him a bunch of times how I feel and he doesn't say anything. I even told him we're on the verge of breaking up because he isn't involved. We've been dating almost 3 years. He even gave me a promise ring last year.

[taianasmum]

Oh gosh that is so irritating. With my first daughter my bf didn't come to any of my apps either I was heart broken.  Have you tried to talk to him and let him know that you want to do stuff together? Is he very serious about you?

[Cassie19957]

He hasn't bought anything yet for the baby. Isn't involved at all...Told me yesterday that the 3d ultrasound is a waste of money and he hasn't even been to an ultrasound yet. I've had 3. He goes salmon fishing. Idk how to do that. But he doesn't ask anyways

[taianasmum]

Oh hun I know that is hard but if he's saving money for you guys and have the ambition to work that hard you should really be happy he is trying to provide for you, if that is the case. Maybe you can ask him if he wants to go fishing together.

[Cassie19957]

I'm 29 weeks.

[duckiie]

How far along are you.... Maybe  hes just trying to adjust and think