Ready to give up

[JJmommy1015]

This is my 2nd child im 14 weeks and i just can't take it anymore. My son doesn't want to have sibling and his daddy (which is the new baby dad as well) doesnt really care about my symptoms he is just ready for the baby to get here. I work a little but above minimum wage job and im surviving now but its hard bc after i thought about it two kids will be tough on me I was excited now im overwhelmed. I just want to know is getting an abortion this late safe?

[Star3789]

i mean reassure him but dont overcompensate.

[Star3789]

I think they will both come around :)  dont cater to your sons insecurities about having to share, it might reinforce those feelings.

[JJmommy1015]

I think all my emotions are hittin me at once. My children father has accepted we are having another child but he doesn't want to be involved w/ dr appts and feelings. So its hard for me to talk to him bc he is so disconnected. I don't believe in abortions either but it jus seems like the easiest route to go w/o hurting anybody but myself. My son is only 4 but he understands that he is going to have to start sharing his parents soon so he is kinda detaching from both of us.

[Star3789]

Most dr.s will do abortions up to 16 weeks so if u r sure about it you dont have much time left, but you need to hurry up and ask your dr about it or Planned Parenthood.  Keep in mind your hormones r raging right now and ask yourself if u can really trust your decision-making skills right now.  I am 39 yrs old and my two teenage daughters are resentfyl that i am pregnant but u know what they will get over it.  I considered abortion for the first 4 months becuz of my age and health problems but i couldnt go thru with it and im so happy my baby will be here in about 3 weeks.  I know i would have regretted if id gotten an abortion.  Its your choice just be sure bfore u do it :)

[laurenhaleyc]

Make yourself be your support system. May be hard at first but once that baby is here your first child will grow to love them. I promise! Best of luck to you.

[haleyfayee]

I'm a first timer, so i don't know exactly how you feel but up until 19 weeks I was freaking out, over stressed, lost my job, baby daddy didn't have one, had to move into my parents and rely on them a lot. Baby daddy left me and all I wanted was an abortion every since I had found out. But you know what, baby's are a true blessing from above, after awhile it gets easier, yiu get more excited towards the middle to end. Don't make an irrational decision, as women, we can handle it, if it gets close to the end, and you still believe having this baby isn't right, give it to a family who can love it

[nicolechavez]

You really feel as if abortion is your only option...girl listen your overwhelmd I get it.but dont make hasty descions bc of the fact..im sorry but I dont believe in abortion AT ALL ..but you ultimatly have to decide I mean have you exspressed how you feel to the dad..tomm is a whole nother day..and abortion is a easy way out...think things through very clearly...ur son will come around..ill say a prayer for u..best of luck

[Staceyyyyy91314]

You'll get through it, mama! Stay strong and keep your head up.

[JJmommy1015]

No i hvnt considered adoption bc i wnt my baby its jus hard when u dnt hve a support system

[Staceyyyyy91314]

Have you considered adoption?

[Staceyyyyy91314]

No it is not safe. Some places won't even do it after 12wks.