Religious Woman keeping Miscarried baby

[Jary08]

I wonder if anyone on here has heard about it?

On a forum im a member of, someone posted a thread on a woman who had had a miscarriage and kept the baby. Sorry i dont have the link but it showed pictures of her with the baby and her chilren holding it....i think the baby was about 4/5 months gestational age.

Basically, everyone was saying how disgusting and sick it was and thought it funny that they had put a little hat on the babys head. Now i know the woman will need professional help as she sounds very upset by this and i completely understand, as will some of you on here, but i couldnt believe how some commenters were being so horrible about it. It seemed no-one understood tht this would have been a very traumatic time for her.

I just wondered what you ladies think of it...if i find the link again ill post it.

[JoyRenee]

I know a woman whose baby died 2 hours after birth (they knew she was going to die and didn't even expect her to live that long). They put a cap on the baby and took pictures with the family. Her older sisters got to hold her and give her kisses and tell her goodbye. There was nothing weird about it.

They didn't take the baby home (hospitals do not allow that) and they had no desire to take her dead body with them. They are still grieving and I follow her blog. She's amazingly strong! I really admire her for what she's gone through.

I don't think we're speaking about the same person either. I didn't check out the link.

[BTS1022]

Peek

If you look at the pics, some do look like she is indeed in her home. Either that or the hospital is very very homish lol.

[peekawho]

I'm going to say that this is something I see very often in my line of work.  That looks like a 18 or so week gestation baby who's mother and family are grieving.  We often dress the baby, put very similar types of hats on, and do anything else we can to soften the unbearable grief of losing a baby.  We take pictures for the family.

Many times, parents choose to have the siblings hold the baby.  It is right for some families, not right for others.

I did not see anywhere where they said she planned on taking the baby home.  

[BTS1022]

I remember seeing this a few months back, when I was looking for pics on 24w fetus'. Im a religious person...not entirely but I do have beliefs. I can understand to a point where she is coming from, but then again....It seems a bit offish to me.

I lost a daughter 6 years ago to a genetic disorder. I delivered her at 34 weeks, and she passed away 30 min after birth. Now I did have to bring her home for a night, because the cemetery we were having her buried at was A) Out of state and B) on a family plot. I couldn't afford to have her transported by hurse or funeral home, so we had to bring her home for a night, and my father transported her to the lot.

One thing is for sure though, I didn't once look in her casket, or take her out while she was home. I did however let her spend the night *in her casket* in her crib and bedroom.

I couldnt see taking a deceased baby home in the form that this lady did, maybe she was under the same circumstances but decided to take the infant out of his/her casket.

[sadiesmommy]

My sister had a miscarriage at 23 weeks. both her and her husband held the baby afterwards and she asked the hospital to take pictures. They also had a private funeral just her and her husband and daughter. I don't think anyone can pretend to know what they would do unless they are facing that very situation.

[Jary08]

Really? in England we have the body at home before the funeral...i think you can opt to have it in the funeral home...im not sure, but when my grandad died he came home one last time.