Religious Woman keeping Miscarried baby

[Jary08]

I wonder if anyone on here has heard about it?

On a forum im a member of, someone posted a thread on a woman who had had a miscarriage and kept the baby. Sorry i dont have the link but it showed pictures of her with the baby and her chilren holding it....i think the baby was about 4/5 months gestational age.

Basically, everyone was saying how disgusting and sick it was and thought it funny that they had put a little hat on the babys head. Now i know the woman will need professional help as she sounds very upset by this and i completely understand, as will some of you on here, but i couldnt believe how some commenters were being so horrible about it. It seemed no-one understood tht this would have been a very traumatic time for her.

I just wondered what you ladies think of it...if i find the link again ill post it.

[spade22]

Jary,

I would consider leaving a community where such hateful and thoughtless comments are made REGARDLESS of what one may think of such a situation.  To call some a "gay censor censor" is well....... dont even get me started.

[LittleBit310]

I was on google and I found photos of a baby that was even smaller and I am starting to wonder if the photos of the baby in the pictures on the other site are real.

[Linzola1]

Its sad! I would think  it would be tramutizing to the kids! I would want to hold my baby too. Its not wierd arall

[LittleBit310]

I feel that the woman had every right to say goodbye to her child. I read throw the post and that bodybuilder site and i wanted to hit everyone that was on there making fun of the lady. I feel that she did what was best for her family in letting them all say goodbye.

[BTS1022]

I didn't know that hospitals and places were actually set up for this kind of stuff. I know with my daughter the nurses made me a little memory box, with her clothes from birth, the measuring tape, lock of hair, feet prints and so forth, she even had a birth and death certificate. I don't see anything wrong with what people do for loved ones who have passed away. I don't think I would take the baby home, if thats what she did, or kept it. I can see spending as much time with the baby as it helps you grieve. I also didn't see an issue with the children being apart of it, children need to learn the crcle of life on way or another, and everyone has their own ways in teaching that.

My comments were mainly about the website that was posted on here by the original poster. How a lot of people were cruel with cruel remarks...it's going to happen no matter where you put the pictures. My daughter passed away from a genetic disorder, and I had a blog once with her pic on it, and I recieved the same hatred and nasty comments because she didn't look normal.

After that I have chosen to NEVER put her pics up online, and I only show select people her pictures because im fearful of the reactions.

If she did bring it home, or keep it then yes I do think it is a bit weird, but I don't think it's weird at all to hold, love, and say goodbye to your baby.

[g8r grl]

OK...I really don't think she "kept" it. This is SO COMMON for people to hold and care for their miscarried babies. Haven't you guys seen this before?

Years ago (70's and 80's) they did not even recommend that you saw your baby if this happened to you. My mom's friend lost her baby at 8 1/2 months and had to carry it for 5 more days before she finally had it. She never got to lay eyes on the baby and they told her that she should not.

Now...in the 90's they decided that this was not the way to go. People needed time to grieve and they will give you upwards of 24-36 hours in a room with your baby after they have passed. There are special rooms in hospitals that are specially set up for these situations. There are also volunteers (usually cute little old ladies) who knit and sew clothes for VERY small babies that are miscarried. There are professional photographers that come in an do custom photos of the baby with the parents to keep as momentos....you guys seriously haven't seen this?!? They even let you give the baby it's first/last bath and dress them. You're whole family comes everyone has a chance to hold the baby and grieve.

I think it was fine that the kids were there. They were part of the whole process and it will help them understand what happened and give them a chance to grieve.

Maybe I missed a part of the link, but nowhere did I see where she "kept" the baby as in brought it home with her and kept it somewhere. Did I miss something?

Go to www.memory-of  .com and you can see THOUSANDS of memorials for babies who did not make it...whether 5 months or full-term. It's not weird...it's what's considered "normal" these days. The professional pictures that people have done are absolutely beautiful...