Religious Woman keeping Miscarried baby

[Jary08]

I wonder if anyone on here has heard about it?

On a forum im a member of, someone posted a thread on a woman who had had a miscarriage and kept the baby. Sorry i dont have the link but it showed pictures of her with the baby and her chilren holding it....i think the baby was about 4/5 months gestational age.

Basically, everyone was saying how disgusting and sick it was and thought it funny that they had put a little hat on the babys head. Now i know the woman will need professional help as she sounds very upset by this and i completely understand, as will some of you on here, but i couldnt believe how some commenters were being so horrible about it. It seemed no-one understood tht this would have been a very traumatic time for her.

I just wondered what you ladies think of it...if i find the link again ill post it.

[AnitaRFrith]

When I lost my baby girl at 20 weeks the nurse came in an asked me if I wanted to see her.  I said yes.  My husband an I held her for about 45 minouts.  We prayed for her then they came in an took her.  ( They let you keep them in there with you as long as you want.) The funeral home picked her up the next day.  We had a full funeral for her.  She looked liked my husband.  I have pics of her... but I don't show any one.  It was for my own grief... not for any one else.  I could not get the pics or her post to show up.  But no one should judge... its hard to let go.  I heard my babys heart beat minouts before she died.  Its some thing that you will NEVER for get.

[loismwallace]

My only question would be why post these pictures on the internet if it was so private and expect not to be judged by someone. Personaly, I think it is a perfectly natural healing process, but it should have been kept to themselves. I think it is very disrepectful to that child to be plastered all over the internet and for what purpose? Surely that was not part of her grieving process. I think the fact they are on the internet is what makes it so disturbing. I think there have been so many speculations as to why she did what she did, that I'm more confused about her actions than I was before.

Peace be with that angel..........

[Jary08]

Im not part of the community on that particular site, I got that link from another...i didnt read all the comments from bodybuilder but i got the jist of it.

So ive just left the topic on the other forum cause the message doesnt seem to get through to people. They just keep saying 'sick' 'weird' 'f****** messed up' etc.

I just want to say thank you for the comments, its nice to see that some people understand and dont judge her for the way she wants to deal with her grief. It did surprise me to see the pics up online but what shocked me was the responses most of all...it was like those people think grieving is not the norm when a woman loses a child.

Blessed be all.

[iwannabemommy]

Hm. Most seen this as disturbing. But, if it were me in that position.. I too probably would have taken pictures and put on a cap and things as a normal baby. Because it IS/WAS a normal baby. It just got cut short at life. It's not the normal color of a baby. But, it's a baby :) As far as keeping it.. I'm not sure how that's possible. But, I do know.. maybe she will treat it like a normal child and when it's time to let go.. she will. And KEEP it close to her heart. The children though, I don't think I would have shown them their brother/sister like that. Maybe a picture when they were older, but as far as holding it, im not sure how I would of handled holding a baby like that. Everyones got their opinions and differences and all that good stuff. I did not find this disturbing though. More along the lines as really sad and heart breaking. I can't imagine holding a baby that will no longer grow. I felt so down for her :( It is a good way to let things go. I would want to hold a baby I've been carrying for that while and feeding :) Watching TLC and women giving birth to their babies.. as soon as they come out they say I love you. Because it's love. So I'm sure she felt the same way for her child. It's just a sad sad thing she's going through.


The whole world is messed up, so seeing something like this on the internet will definetly get something mixed up somehow. But, all -n- all... its life. I learn to take it as it comes.. and hope for the best for that family.

[alaysha]

I can't even imagine how it would feel to loose my baby in that way. I dont think her grieving and taking pictures are wrong at all and I think that it is very healthy to be able to say goodbye in that way. My sisters best friend gave birth to her child pre-term and they dressed the baby in the hospital and then she took her home buried her in the backyard and planted a tree on top of it. Even though it isn't fully developed it is a baby! Even in the first weeks of a pregnancy you love your child unconditionally and to loose it half way through would make anyone devastated.

[LittleBit310]

I will never look at that site again. Not a one of those guys have a heart and the will all have to answer to God on judgement day.