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partners changed his mind.
Hi mummys, I'm 19 years old & I am currently 11w 1d. Me and my partner have been togther 4 years. We have known I am pregnant from around 3weeks. After having my first ultrasound at 6week's, my partner was still standing by me 1000%. Tonight, out of no wear (we wasn't argueing) he says he thinks I should get an abortion, due to the way I'm being (mood swings) he's now telling me he doesn't want me or the baby. I don't know what to do, in my opinion he has been incredibly selfish as he's letme and my vbaby get to 11weeks. Opinion and advice needed please.
I'm so sorry to hear that. But he should as consider what you want. I'm gonna say it, he is a jerk. If he wants nothing to do with the both of you there is legal actions you can take and make him responsible. Maybe. Just maybe if you give it time he will come around. I don't think you should stress over this so much its not good for the baby at all.
He is being selfish.. moodiness comes with the territory and he just needs to grow a set and deal with it if not he is going to be the one who misses this amazing thing. Sorry mor being blunt but don't get an abortion just cause he says you are strong and can do this yourself also the state has programs to help out with stuff you need
You can do this. There is so much support for single moms, from insurance help to education and daycare if you are in the states. Those that tell you not to do this will regret it in the future and come crawling back to u and it will be up to u if you forgive. As you are only 11 weeks so they could still come around. You have been with him 4 years, "mood swings" are temporary...I agree there is more going on with him. Could it be others pressuring him? If you want baby keep baby, it will be your best decision. I have known so many single mommies and none of them would change a thing. Good luck and know you have support here and plenty of ppl that can relate. Also look for mommy groups in your area for support, many pregnant women join them and you will prolly be offer lots of hand me downs if you need help buying things for baby.
I do want my baby, more than anything, but I'm scared to do it on my own, my parents don't want me to keep the baby, and have been told to get my own place & now my partner doesn't want it. I have spoken to my partner and he is still saying he wants an abortion and he don't want me either, it is generally down to me being moody. I want my baby more then anything I've ever wanted!!
Dont listen to him,he is afraid! Belive me he will change his mind! If you feel you should have that baby dont change your mind just because he thinks different! Thats your baby and he will be sorry!
Do not get an abortion because someone else wants you too. This is your baby too, not just his. It is also only your body and only you can make decisions for what happens to it. Do not let him influence you, even if it means being a single mom. He may come around after he realizes that you aren't getting an abortion. He may threaten to leave you if you don't get one. He is manipulating you to get you to do what he wants. This is your decision and he has no say in an abortion. If you do it, it will be on your shoulders. And many many women get abortions for a man, only to have the man leave anyways!
If thats his only reason for not wantimg the baby or you then do it on your own. If my husband would tell me to abort because I was bein "moody" I would tell him where he could shove his opinion. If you want the baby then keep it and dont let him have a control over you to that extent if you do want him/her.
It has to be your choice. Nobody has the right to tell you to have an abortion not even baby daddies. He's still the father but if he's not willing to deal with the complications of the new life that both of you created it's his loss.
I think you should do whats best for you and try to talk to him whats wrong maybe hes upset about something else and taking it out on you? If he still asks for thag then maybe you need to.leave him and stay calm for the baby. I would never give up on my baby just cause someone told.me.to.:/
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