Aa
So pissed off!!
Has anyone else had a best friend who they could spend 24/7 with and be perfectly ok??? Well I did, she was amazing and was always there for me and my kids she would even help my hubby when needed. Well since I've become pregnant with this baby (a girl) I am SUPER B IT CH!! Seriously EVERYTHING bothers me. She is right the top of that list. She is ALWAYS around. Normally it didn't bother me but she has become a sticky booger and as much as I love her I can't stand her. I've talked to hubby and he said I just need to set boundaries. Let her know I love and appreciate her but I need more quality time with my kids and husband. I thought this was a great idea. Surely as my best friend she would understand, right?? WRONG!!! She fricken lost it saying I'm trying to cut her out of my life and I don't care abt her because if I did I wouldn't MAKE her spend time away from me. It was to the point she wanted to be here even if we weren't. Cuz she is 26 and lives at home with gma who takes care of everything for her!!! I'm so mad right now. I've tried to explain it to her every way I could nicely. But now I don't wanna be nice anymore!! All I asked her for was to go home by 930pm when she is here and not to be here every day every other day was fine! But now she is pissed cuz we only want family (us and our kids) at our 3D ultrasound!!! I'm feeling so trapped!!!' Please any help or advice would be great!! Let me also add I am NOT a nice pregnant with a girl person. My emotions are all over the place to the point where I don't feel I'm in control anymore :(
Shellie I'm sorry for your friend breaking your trust/friendship that way. He knows your married and not to him. He shoulda kept his mouth shut. Me too will lose my only friend if mine walks away cuz of this. Minus my hubby of coarse. Lol. At least I have you ladies!!:)
I hope everything works out. I had to recently quit communicating with a friend ive had for 11 years hes male and we've only ever been friends ive never been romantic with him but a week before Christmas he drunk dialed me telling me about how his sick wife is getting worse and theres a gag forming in his marriage i tried to talk to him and cheer him up my husband knows whats all going on and doesn't have a problem with me being friends with a man well that friend started asking why i never thought about sleeping with him before because he used to think about it ALOT and apparently still does :( he apologized later but i feel so betrayed that he would speak to me that way and i don't want my husband to think theres something going on so i dont have a friend anymore which is sad but needs to be done :/
Im SO just ready for it to be me and my family again. They are #1 to me. Not her. Friends always come after god kids and hubby....I hope she pulls her head out and realizes I still want her friendship just not around me 24/7
I am really greatful to know I did not blow things out of proportion. She is a FT student. However she would constantly skip school to come to my house. And thinking her grades were great allowed it. I saw her grades from last semester on my computer and she damn near failed out for missing so much school and not turning in assignments. I told her it wasn't gonna happen this semester. Not at my house.
Well, she's NOT family from your perspective! I do understand that in some cases friends become so important and beloved that they are family, but that only happens when everyone agrees. She can't just move in with you and declare herself family.
On the other hand, she's a full time student? So really she's not there all the time, she's in school? Full time student is really something, IMHO, she's moving forward and not just laying around. So she is doing stuff and has motivation and is moving forward.
On the other hand, somehow your post caught my eye and irritated me. I was recently involved with a family situation where a girl of about the exact same age declared herself family - called the kids her "sisters" - and it just really irritated me because the family didn't feel the same way about her.
I wish you well. Don't feel guilty that you are reclaiming your family.
On the other hand, she's a full time student? So really she's not there all the time, she's in school? Full time student is really something, IMHO, she's moving forward and not just laying around. So she is doing stuff and has motivation and is moving forward.
On the other hand, somehow your post caught my eye and irritated me. I was recently involved with a family situation where a girl of about the exact same age declared herself family - called the kids her "sisters" - and it just really irritated me because the family didn't feel the same way about her.
I wish you well. Don't feel guilty that you are reclaiming your family.
You cant help feeling the way you do :/ i totally would have asked her to start being ready to head home by 9:30 for me it prob would have been closer to 7 or 8 if i already have kids you have every right to spend quality time with your husband and kids before bed maybe she just freaked a little about this new thing and shell get better if not ask why she doesnt seem to want to be at her house?
Im sry she got u so upset try not to stress cuz its her that's gonna lose a good friend in the end. Sry you gotta a good life with a family n she don't that's her problem. Hopefully after some time she will cool off n realize she tripped for no reason. N maybe it's time for her to get a life n stop trying to live yours.
I just wanna cry I'm so mad!! I get I'm the only friend she has but I need space!!!! And she doesn't understand. She keeps telling me SHE IS FAMILY which is true but I reminded her she was not my children or my husband and they come first. Now she won't talk to me.
She doesn't work cuz her gma pays for everything. And has never made her do a thing on her own really! She is a FT student and one of the shyest ppl you'll meet. We became friends after our youngest was born. We were in-separable and much welcomed help. However it just got worse and worse with her being here ALL the time. She has no interest in spending time with anyone else or trying to make a family on her own. I guess it took me becoming pregnant to realize I want my family back!! I love spending time with her but not ALL the time!!
Like your hubby said set some boundaries if she is a real friend she will understand. You shouldn't be feelng bad your the pregnant one her being your bestie she should except and respect your wishes and understand you n what your going through. Hope it all works out n she realizes she is wearing out her welcome.. good luck momma
Why doesn't she work, or have any life outside of your family? Kind of odd, really. Usually with friendships they fade when one starts to have kids and a family and the other is still single.
It sounds like she has just decided to plant herself within your family.
It sounds like she has just decided to plant herself within your family.
Sounds to me like she needs to get a life. you are not wrong and she needs to give you and your family some space. I mean its one thing to visit once in a while but not daily your not teenagers any more. Also i sense maybe a little bit of jealousy for her to b so mad. Your better then me shoot i woulda said once a week or even let me want your company not you just being here all the time. Does she have a life or any kids if not maybe thats y she took it so hard
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