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I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I was already going through issues. Now I found out husband has been cheating on me. I really want to hurt myself but my son is innocent has nothing to do with this! What to do?
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You may want to seek professional help. I have been there and the help was much needed girl. Your precious baby will love u no matter what. Men can be such a s s h o l e s. Your precious. Your worth it!
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Sweety it's not your fault, he's the one that messed up & will again. Please, please, please don't hurt yourself! I too battle with depression and have self harmed before but cry the pain out, go for a walk, find yourself an apartment or stay with someone you trust & leave this zero behind you. I'll keep you in my prayers <3
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I know it sounds weird, but when I went through this, I made an appointment with my doctor/midwife and talked to them about my options. They were very helpful and gave me tons of info to help me get on my feet alone. Good luck!
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Sweety it's not your fault, he's the one that messed up & will again. Please, please, please don't hurt yourself! I too battle with depression and have self harmed before but cry the pain out, go for a walk, find yourself an apartment or stay with someone you trust & leave this zero behind you. I'll keep you in my prayers <3
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5549102 tn?1376522673
I understand exactly where you are coming from. It's been a long time since I have hurt myself. When I got pregnant things changed because I don't want my child growing up and hurting himself. I found other ways to cope with these feelings. The first thing I did was see a counselor. Then I found ways to keep me busy such as cleaning, drawing, calling someone to scream and cry at, walking, anything other than hurting myself. I have so many scars and regret everyone of them now because when my little one gets older he is going to ask and I don't know what to tell him. Hurting yourself may take the pain away for a moment but not forever. You need to seek help to learn how to cope with pain without hurting yourself. I am so sorry you are going through this heartache and I assure you that time heals all wounds. And when your sweet child arrives it makes you brand-new. If you love your husband and don't want to leave him, make him take marriage counseling with you. Family counseling.  You can work things out it will be a long hard road but it can be done. But if you can't handle being there emotionally then leave and handle it else where. You and that baby are the most important. Seek counseling and go from there. Keeping you in my prayers.
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Y do u want to hurt urself.just leave him bcz u deserve better ur a good girl n u will have a baby n ur life will change.good luck
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5894884 tn?1386969571
Just focus on yourself and your baby. I know it seems like the easy thing to do by hurting yourself and forgetting the rest of the pain but it won't help matters. Do you have anyone you can stay with for a while? If so, stay with them and have some time away from your husband just for yourself. I hope you feel better soon x
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5609181 tn?1375332372
I would honestly forget about the husband as just focus on your baby but whatever you do do as long as you out baby first then you can't make a wrong decision
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Ugh its so frustrating.  I can't really deal with it like I want cuz I'm pregnant and he wants me to stay but I feel it will happen again he says we don't ever go out.wtf are we supposed to go to Disneyland every weekend
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5609181 tn?1375332372
Don't hurt yourself. Your husband isn't worth it but your little baby is and that should give you motivation to be healthy for him.
Talk to someone you're close to:)
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I want to. Idk what to do
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5623087 tn?1377889284
I used to hurt myself don't do it...it only makes things worse
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5623087 tn?1377889284
Talk to someone who ur close with nd trust personally id leave him in a heartbeat
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