Aa
need advice
Im 18 and im 6months pregnant with a beautiful little girl, i live with my father/grandpa (adoption) and ive been with my babys father for 4 years now. My boyfriend while staying at home cant get a job or do anything for his baby (no job no money) due to his dad, his dad is an *** and beats on him all the time he bosses him around like a child and when he dont do what he says my boyfriend gets beat (literaly). I really am gunna need my boyfriend n i want him to move in with me... my grandpa wont let that happen untill we are married. I dont know what to do... my grandpa is so set on not letting him live here till then yet he needs to so he can help me.. help please i dont know what to do!
Well it is your father's house. Unfortunately you have to listen to his rules. Is there somewhere else your bf can stay so he is able to get a job?
Is your boyfriend 18? Marry him if you love him and think he's father material.
From the sound of it, he's got some growing up to do if he's still at home at 18 living in a miserable situation. Many guys get out.
They find a way.
From the sound of it, he's got some growing up to do if he's still at home at 18 living in a miserable situation. Many guys get out.
They find a way.
You've been with him for 4 years your gonna have a child with him, is it such a bad idea to marry him? I married my husband because of our baby girl and we're very happy about it, I'm not saying it's the correct thing to do, there is no right way to raise a child but if you want him to be around and that's ur grandpas only condition maybe it would he what's best for your baby girl. Give it some consideration :)
No he dont have hardly anyfriends and anywhere else would be right next to his house where his dad would still beat him till he did what he wanted
Go down to the court house, apply for a marriage certificate and go see an official that will marry you two. Easy, fast and cheap. You need a witness... have your grandpa be the witness :) Sounds like that would greatly improve everybody's lives/living situatiion.
By the way, your grandpa is a wise, wise man. Listen to him when he gives you guidance.
Hes 21 but hes always been treated like this from his dad.. idk why he puts up with it i woulda walked out years ago. I wouldnt mind getting married to him <3 i love him with all my heart and now hes the father to our baby. He thinks we should wait but maybe sence this is goin on still he might break and marry me <3
You should get married so not only he would be able to move in with you and away from his situation but you will have a commitment from him other than just saying your his girlfriend/ baby momma, it will allow you guys to move forward in the right direction ad husband and wife and give your child/children something many children go without, a loving family and peaceful home and see two parents that truly love each other and that are committed and that have the strongest commitment that two people can have, and that's being husband and wife. Just make sure that you both agree that you truly want to be together with one another and desire marriage.
And always listen to your grandfather he seems like a very wise man who truly cares for you! Many women don't have that, your truly bless.
Thank you ladys <3 i love my grandpa very much hes my father (raised me sence i was 2 and befor alittle)
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy Community
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.
