Stressed. Worn out

[gm1031]

I know this has nothing to do with my pregnancy. I just need to vent. My husband is bi polar and adhd. He threatens me if i leave him he will never let me have our baby im 18wks. Hes pulled my hair, jumps on top of me, tries to bite me, holds my face, chokes my dog till he doesnt breathe, hits me with pillows. I have punched him for twisting and holding my arm while spitting and holding me down till he let my arm go. Im sure we will argue again tonight he is pissed. I am scared of him hurting me and i lose the baby

[mamaof4410]

Things like that are exactly what my journal posting earlier was about...meaning the pitbulls. I really want to help you. I live literally 15 mins from you! I wouldn't post things about his gang status. This is a big problem here in SA. Or post things that he has done if he finds this out it could make things worse. Keeping secrets is a big thing to guys like this.

[stpatysdaybaby87]

he cannot take that baby from you unless he can prove to the state that you are "unfit".  i would get out of there. call the police, they will help escort you out and keep you safe from him. The emotional abuse is worse for you and the baby than physical abuse.... you are not in a safe situation! call the cops and your family and get the support and help you need to get out of there...your husband is not unstoppable if everyone works together! Best of luck

[breanna_d]

Please try to take your puppy too, if u had to drop it off at a shelter to keep it from dying, its for the best! The strongest thing u can do is protect the weak ( your baby & pets)! It's your responsibility to keep them safe. Best of luck, and take all the help from everyone who offers it!

[gm1031]

He has a son going on 3. He has full custody of him. He always tells me to get on my knees and beg for forgiveness while choking my 9 wk old puppy. He put my other dog in a cage with a pitbull and he killed him. I live on the southside of san antonio. By southpark mall. My husband has killed in mexico. Hes known as el magico cause hes untouchable. He is also very nice though. It just saddens me that he does this. He gets mad cause i dont love his son like hes my own. I treat him good, i dont spank him like he does. So then i feel i deserve it. He gets mad cause i talk to my belly when im worried. He wont take his medication. Just smokes marijuana.

[peppymomtobe]

Prayers for you!!! I agree with the other ladies that this is not a safe environment for you and the baby. Get on record his assaults and check to see if there are any women's shelters that may be able to assist you. I know where I am from there are places of refuge for women in abusive situations similar to yours. Also does he take medication for his behavior?

[peppymomtobe]

Prayers for you!!! I agree with the other ladies that this is not a safe environment for you and the baby. Get on record his assaults and check to see if there are any women's shelters that may be able to assist you. I know where I am from there are places of refuge for women in abusive situations similar to yours. Also does he take medication for his behavior?

[mamaof4410]

I live very close to y

[RippedonScotch]

I think you should get out of there.   There are lots of support groups out there for single moms.  You need to get out of there for all 3 of you guys. I'd also suggest pressing some charges. if it is documented that he hurt you the chances of him getting custody of your son are must less likely.  If you continue then your son is going to see that and think it is normal behaviour and do the same thing.   You really need to get out of there while you can.
  

[telly82]

hey i had a cousin who was in a relationship like this and she didnt seek help even though she came to us late with her situation we filed a report with the police department he got arrested she went and dropped the charges on him behind our backs, she got pregnant for him but the beatings did not stop, she had her baby then one day they got into it when the baby was about 7 months he ended up grabbing the baby ( trying to hurt her by doing so) and he dropped the baby on her head and it wasn't by accident and beat her unconcious and we found the both of them hours later...so yes you need to GET OUT while you can cause its not going to get any better just because you clean up or cook trying to make him happy is THE WRONG ANSWER, seek help ASAP sweetie

Good Luck!!

[Mommyjeep11]

Pm me. I'm not sure what side of San Antonio you are on but I have an aunt that lives there and works with many different charities that help women get away from situations like yours. She is off 1604 and I-10 but I know she works all over the city. I can call her tomorrow and see where she says you could go or get help from.

You need to get out. He is not stable and it will only get worse. He has no right to treat you this way.

[jr885150]

You need to leave. I too am bi.polar and have mine under control but it sounds like your man is getting no medical help. He is not going to change until he realizes he is not functioning normal. Also he can't take the baby away. No.judge will give him custody if he is not seeking medical help for him being bipolar.

[crystalnordin]

I am speaking from experience, i was in an abusive relationship as well, he would never let me leave either. So one night he beat me pretty good and i had told him that i needed to go and talk to a friend of mine. I promised him i wouldnt say anything about what had happened between us the night before. But i broke down as soon as i had got there. Our daughter was only just over a year old. We went to the police just to file a complaint, it ended up that they arrested him. He was being charged for 7 counts of assault against me but only convicted of one count. We had a no contact order for a year, he did get to see his daughter but exchanges were done at family and childrens services. So my suggestion to you would be to get out of there the first chance you have. Be creative on how you get out and i promise u that you will never regret it. I lived in that situation for ten years.

[armywife1020]

If i were u i will leave him and like all the girls said go get the help there is many resources that can help u and ur lil one. Dnt b scared god is with u ans so are we. I hate that women like you get abuse like that and especially wid a baby on da way. Tak care and plz reach out to any of us if u need a push to finally get out of that misery. Think abt ur babys safety and urs.... Im sure ur mom will tak u in again... Be positive and dnt let him push u around.

[stacey10]

dont be embarrased for reaching out for support and advice, you need to put the needs of yourself and your baby first, you need to have a safe environment for both you and your baby, your husband is sick, but it is still not acceptable what he is doing to you, even if you have to sneak under the radar until the 17, do that and do not give him any idea of what your planning to do, go about your daily rountine and dont change a thing, its better for you and bub if he has no idea of what your thinking of doing, you need to do this and you and bub deserve a better life

[Clysta]

This is only going to get worse and he WILL make threats because he knows you will stay. If he honestly wanted to kill himself he would have gone and done it. My dad did the same BS to us when my mom tried to leave and she fell for it - because of that my sister and I paid the price and spent 15 years abused sexually and physically. He's proven he is abusive and unstable, don't think he won't be the same way to your child. There are dozens of ways to protect yourself, you just need to find and use them.

[mumstheword2202]

All i can say is do everything you can to protect & save your baby from any harm. After losing my own son its so hard to know that i could have done so much more to keep him here. You'll regret it forever if you dont do something now. You should leave.

[gm1031]

I start school jan 17. That is a great idea. I doubt he will hold his tantrum that long. He got mad that i had the flu and kept moving cause my body hurt and i couldnt get comfortable. I will keep you guys posted on how things turn out. Grinding my teeth :(

[gm1031]

Thank you for all the support. It gives me courage. I have called a shelter they have our address. I live in san antonio tx i dont know what helps here. Its embarrassing to have to tell others how the one you married is treating you. Going to clean so he might not be pushy or shovey. Thanks. God bless you ladies and your pregnancies.

[agrell]

Honey you def need to get out of there...maybe instead of going to class one day pack all your stuff go to your moms than go to the police station and file a report and ask for a restraining order...

[shannonmarie1082]

You really need to leave. That is not a safe or healthy relationship for you or your child. There has to be someone who can help you. If nothing else go to a councilor at school and see if they can help. There are many battered women shelters that will protect you as well. I'm praying for you.

[trying43]

Call the cops!!  They will arrest him and issue an emergency order of protection where he can't come near you.  There are tons of resources available for you.  Call victims assistance(they can help u sometimes financially) or family services they can help u find housing, financial assistance, food, daycare for after the baby is born etc.  Also local churches will provide assistance too(catholic charities)  as far as him getting the baby if u have him arrested there is no way he would get the baby.  You need to get away from him so he doesn't hurt you or the baby.  Good luck to u.

[gm1031]

I never thought i would sound like those women who get abused and stay. I feel weak. This is sad and i shouldnt have to go through this but he makes me feel as if i deserve it. I know that i dont. I dont feel any better venting cause i know ill see him soon.

[squigglesquish]

Get out of there!!!

[gm1031]

I would leave him. My unborn son comes first. Just he is dangerous. If something does happen i have to wait to call the cops. Ive run but he caught me and said im never going to be with anyone else. Hes 6'2. He has weapons. I have 2 guns. He has put them to his head when ive tried to leave. I cant live with that burden. Im so lost and emotional being pregnant.