Venting and advice please idk what to do

[De3tiny]

it seems there is always something with me. Well today I was going to go to a family BBQ and my sister said she was going to bring someone. Let's call him sob. My sister and I were talking on fb and I asked her very super nicely to please not have him around me. I have a lot of reasons why I hate him with a blind passion. But I will not go all out into it though I will say he assaulted me with one of his guy friends when I was 12. I ended up pregnant and my beautiful daughter was still born at 7 months. So getting back to the point my sister said I could not see her daughter unless I seen sob. Who is not her child's dad I must add and they have only been dating for a few weeks. So today I refused to go and contacted family that I would not be going because I had a argument with my sister. I'm sitting here crying all day because I almost never see my niece except for when it benefits my sister. Hours go by and sob messages me on Facebook calling me names and so does my sister I said to sob if he message me again I will call the police and say I'm being harassed. Now my sister is being even more cruel and she knows I'm a high risk pregnancy and is trying to give me all the stress I can take. My hormones are making be a crying fool and my boyfriend has no clue what happened because I never told him who had been Alexis father. he is trying to convince me that everything will be fine and I'll see my niece again. But right now I'm a crying mess and I don't know what to do next. Sorry for the super long post I'm at wits end

[De3tiny]

I always try to think before I speak but with my sister she wants nothing to do with me right now and she keeps saying nasty things being called a princess was the nicest one I could find. She keeps saying I need to grow up and let the past be the past. She has a very short temper. I know for myself when I'm angry I could say a million things and it would hurt her but that's not who I am. Like I would show you the messages if I could post them here. I'm really trying but this is all childish I feel like only children do this kind of stuff. She is not who I thought she was and with what she just sent me she is not welcome in my life. She called my boyfriend and "said I hope you and your little w$0re break up and I hope she ends up like the white trash on tv who can't keep their kids." I'm seriously hysterical right now. How can anyone wish anything like that on anyone.

[xojensen_]

Ugh I'm so sorry. She's really handling the situation so wrong you're her family and her keeping your niece from you is just horrible, you shouldn't have to forgive someone that did that to you. I think it was a good idea telling your boyfriend I could only imagine how hard that was for you but at least he now knows and has your back. Do you think it's possible for you to sit and actually have a mature conversation how seeing your niece without her being rude and calling you a princess?

[african_mama_bear]

That's good he is supportive my boyfriend says the same thing when I cry about my family that they are not family anymore my children and him are

[RigenaDaku]

I feel so happy right now knowing how supportive and caring you're boyfriend is about this situation! Im so sorry that had to happen to you at such a young age. You just need to keep you're distance from the people who aren't supportive in your life because as pregnant women we need all the support we can get right now! You just focus on your babies and that man who loves you because at the end of the day they're all you got. Trust me I am learning that the hard way.

[De3tiny]

I told my boyfriend. He is Jewish born and raised and I've never seen him lose his temper and he is crying with me right now he has always had my back and he is so anger not by me but because of my sister. He said I know it hurts but sometimes people make choices and they are not family anymore I can love my niece but staying away is right.

[african_mama_bear]

I'm so sorry you have to go thru this trust me I know the feeling my sister is the same way she talks to everybody who did me wrong til this day but when someone does her wrong I have her back and don't even be around them it hurts knowing that ppl so close to us can hurt us the way they do I too just put my sister to the side because all she does is cause me stress and drama she takes care of my brothers and it's sad that I can't see them or be around them like I want to because it comes with drama and when my daughter was only two days old we were still in the hospital she text me saying she would make me and my crack head baby homeless trust me I know how you feel and your parents don't care or are in ur life but all you can do hun is focus on ur pregnancy I know u love ur niece and really don't want her to go thru the same thing but it's her child and there is nothing u can do but pray and focus on urself and ur baby I had to learn to do that and just hope for the best with my brothers but my daughter and unborn daughter are my only concern at this point it'll be hard but u dnt wanna loose ur child because she wants to be evil smh

[kHz721]

Omg Darling I am so sorry this must just be awful for you x can you confined in your boyfriend ? Talking with someone close may help . I really don't know what you can do :(  just know my whole heart goes out to you. Truly.........
I pray for you sweetheart You are So strong

[00Baby00]

It's disturbing that your sister is willing to stay with that guy knowing what they did to you. It doesn't matter if he changed or not. You have to live with those scars the rest of your life and your sister should be there to support you.

[De3tiny]

My parents are not involved in my life I was disowned. My sister keeps telling me he changed but I find it completely sick and because when it happened he was 2 years older then me he got off free no record or anything. I keep telling my sister to not leave her baby with that sob and she keeps calling me a princess who wants everything to go my way. I really am not like that I just can't be around them I feel like I'm choosing myself over my nieces safety. I just can't stop crying and I can't eat everything keeps coming up and my morning sickness ended weeks ago. Ughh

[xojensen_]

I have no idea how your sister could even be with someone that would do that to her sister at the age of 12. Seriously **** her and **** him. I can't believe that I'm sooo sorry. You did the right thing by not going just would of added more stress. How do your parents feel? Knowing she's dating someone that did that to there daughter at such a young age?