Totally OT...RE: Wedding Bands

[natemomma27]

You ladies have helped with every other question I've had, so I'm hoping you can do the same for the following non-pregnancy related question...

My FH and I are planning our wedding for August and the topic of wedding bands has just NOW come up. See, his mother gave him her engagment & wedding band to be used for when we get married. They are gold diamond channel bands. So naturally I assumed his band would be gold as well, or at least 2-toned. He just now told me that he doesn't want a gold band. He picked out a titanium type of metal band...it's like a gun-metal color (I'll post a picture if you think it will help, let me know). He want's this one b/c with the type of work he does...HVAC/Electrical...it wont scratch, tarnish or become dented. I've always assumed that the bands are to match. What is every one elses opinions? Am I being too traditional or is a band a band...regardless of color its a symbol of our marriage? Thanks so much ladies!!!

[luv2bmommy]

i dont think it really matters. my husband has a gold w/ diamonds and he cant wear it to work so he just doesnt wear it!

[sweetangel7]

At first I was sad to see that my hubby and I clearly had different ideas on what our bands would be...I'm really into the bling and he is a much more understated kind of guy.  He picked out a diamond band for me (nicer than the one I would have picked/settled for...you only do this once-hopefully- so why not be happy) and I picked out his titanium band...It sounds like the same color/gunmetal not shiny type of band...My husband didn't even like any of the white gold or platinum because he thought they looked 'sparkly'...he doesn't like anything flashy for himself.  Long story short...our bands represent our bond and we are both very happy with them so in my opinion that is all that matters.  Now that we have been married for years I don't even think about it at all.  

[loismwallace]

My ring doesn't match...Infact! I just bought him a new Titanium band for Christmas. He loves it and has decided it's his new gold. He plans on buying him more pieces. He's a land surveyor so he's always in the dirt or diging pins up. It holds up REALLY well.
Besides, you should be thankful he wears one. My FIL doesn't wear his.......

[gokuangel]

my ring doesnt match my DH either. we were thinking bout getting a trio set but when we went bk to get them they were gone i was so disappointed i wanted matching too so we decided since i had white gold promise ring (its very pretty though has a marque cut on it my fav.) i would wear that and get a matching band for  it and then we couldnt find him a white gold band so he has the traditional gold and it doesnt even matter now just like the other girls said my DH is in construction too pouring concrete and he almost lost the ring a couple of times so he stopped wearing his and the one time he had it on one of the diamonds fell out so it has to be fixed b4 he can wear it again.

[Shannon125]

I have a platinum band and platinum engagement ring and my husband also has one of those titanium bands. Like the others said, it doesn't matter really. I will tell you this though that even though they tell you titanium doesn't scratch, it does!!! My husband doesn't even have a hands on job (he is a radio personality) and his looks like ****. We have only been married 3 and a half years too. The scratches on the band are not typical scratches like on gold. They look like shiny lines all throughout the ring because the titanium metal is more of a dull metal anyway. Well, just wanted to let you know about the scratching thing!!!

[Skylynns_mom]

My fiance and i are getting married may 17th, my ring is white gold and his is gold, it doesn't really make much of a difference as long as you both like the rings you'll be wearing.

[KellyA74]

No way - My rings are platinum and DH wanted titanium as well.......Although they are both silverish in color, the titanium is much more dull.....And it does scratch.....BAD......Dh is a land surveyor and wanted to get something that wouldn't get bent......that it does not...it's very strong, and when it does get scratched, the jeweler can just buff the scratches out.....No need for them to match...you each need to get something that you like and will be proud to wear.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

my husband and i started with matching bands and i don't think he ever particularly liked his.  He's since "misplaced" that ring, but I got another one for him...the kind he likes.  Both our rings are gold but i think that so long as he is willing to wear it, why make a big deal?  I agree on his reasoning for it.  Would you rather he wear one that doesn't match yours or for him to not wear one to work at all?  

[baby_edgar]

my husband has two wedding bands. his got his original ring which is gold with dimonds and a work wedding band which is just plain gold. his work one is all scratched but it doesnt matter because he has his other one for special events.

[adawning4]

my husband has the same type of ring... he works in construction putting in granite countertops in the new houses. His original ring is all bent outta shape and scratched so bad you cant even see it. But he has had this one for about 1 1/2 yrs and its still hanging on! So I would let him, that way he cant say that he had to take it off so it wouldnt get messed up lol!!! Good luck and congrats!

[kjbutcher]

Titanium is great for guys.  You should be very happy that he even wants to wear a band.  he could have opted for gold and diamonds and not wear it to work.  You could always get two bands.  The titanium for when he works and a gold that matches yours that you would get married with and he could wear on special occasions when it wontget messed up.  Really in his line of work titanium is really the best.  Gold could result in a hospital trip and a ruined wedding band.  (I used to manage Zales...I have seen this a lot)

[GreenEyedMama]

My hubby has had a couple wedding bands (gold) he ruined them all working.I dont think it really  matters, as long as your is much better!!LOL.

[martikadragoon]

if you are worried about them matching, you can always have the diamond taken out and  reset into a White gold or Platinum or titanium band. I'd love for me and dh to have matching bands.. but he threw his away in a fight around a year or two ago.

So basically he'll be getting a band that doesnt match but will be yellow gold also.