Trying to Conceive!!!

[gemmaj3]

Hi Everyone

I'm new to this site/forum so please bear with me.....

My boyfriend and I have have been trying to conceive for just over six months. As far as we know we are both healthy and we honestly thought that it would have happened for us by now. I have read on a few sites that it can take some couples alot longer than they'd expect. Any ideas from anyone please to try and increase our chances? I have kind of assumed that I would be ovulating approx between days 12 to 16 of my cycle, although we have been trying all through the month. Is that wrong to assume that and should I be buying ovulation sticks?....it's just they appear to be quite expensive!

I have had a little 'stress' the last couple of months with some family issues.....could this be having a big impact?

Thanks to anyone that replies.

[gemmaj3]

Thank you everyone for replying to me, everyone is so nice on here!!!

I think I need to 'forget' that we're trying and just see what happens like you guys suggested. I was like that the first month or two but then I got abit obsessed about it I think. I have been taking folic acid and I will also look into the other vitamins mentioned. Hopefully if I relax about the whole thing, I will be able to report on here soon that I get a BFP!

Thanks so much to everyone, I now feel sooooo much better!

[trynerd]

welcome :). Try not to get stressed out. Me and my partner was trying for 6-7 months and religiously i would decide on when i was ovulating, convincing myself the symptoms i were having were early pregnancy symptoms. And taking tests every few days even though i knew they would come back negative. Then in july/august i decided to try and relax and forget about ttc and started to put my mind into work and in august i took a test because i was having a bit of cramping and wasnt due on for another week and surprisingly it came back with a BFP :). So just try and relax and have fun :)

good luck and babydust to you

xx

[Tasia32]

Welcome!!! It took me and my husband a year and three months. For us we just put it in Gods hands and said if he is going to give us kids he will give us one and we stopped worrying about it and that very same month it happened. So try not to stress over the process. Lots of baby dust to you hun.

[JoyRenee]

You can figure out ovulation without using OPKs. If you are regular a simple math equation can even suffice. How long are your cycles? If you have a typical 28-day cycle, then yes you are assuming your ovulation days correctly. But if your cycles are shorter or longer than 28 days then you need to take your cycle length and subtract 14 to get your estimated ovulation day.

CYCLE LENGTH - 14 = ESTIMATED OVULATION DAY

Also, first day of your cycle is the first day of bleeding. You do not start counting after the bleeding has stopped.

Good luck!

[MandiJ]

Hi, I am also trying to conceive. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past 2 years and no baby yet. I am trying very hard to get healthy, I quit smoking cigarettes, I do not drink, unless once in awhile when I know I'm not possibly pregnant, and I'm taking prenatals every day and coral calcium to help neutralize my ph level. I've been researching the past few months a LOT about what you can do to help your chances of conceiving. Here are a few pointers I'd like to share with you and I really hope they work for you. ( I have a feeling I'm pregnant now, but it's too early to tell, and I'm hoping if I keep my fingers crossed it will come true, finally.)
First of all, try to take some time out of your day to just relax, even if it's 5 minutes before you go to bed. Do some deep breathing and think about good things, like fricking ponies or something. Just to help even out your stress level. Stress can be a factor, and I would know, the more you stress about wanting to be pregnant the less likely it will happen, that's why everyone keeps telling us not to think about, once you stop trying it will happen. Well that's not always the case, but it can help, even though it's the hardest thing to do.
Next, make sure you are getting all the vitamins your body needs. Folic acid is especially important in the development of a baby, and will also help from the moment you conceive.
One thing I have started taking is Coral Calcium, but you want to make sure it's the right amount, you want a pill or liquid that is 2 parts calcium to 1 part magnesium. (this is what makes up your bones, and when you are missing something in your body, it depletes your stored calcium before anything else, so having that extra help will never hurt.) Also, coral calcium helps to even out your ph level in your body, which, if your body is too acidic could cause problems in keeping a baby or even allowing your body to get pregnant. Just something I think you should look into.
Another thing I've looked into is the amount of sex you have. You don't want to have too much because sperm count goes down, but you don't want to have not enough because then you could possibly be missing your ovulation days!
My husband and I have been doing every other day starting 1 day after my period. You want him to have enough time to replenish his sperm count.
ANOTHER good thing that I've read is, make sure your significant other is getting enough Vitamin C. Too much in females is not good, but if he doesn't have enough it could greatly affect his sperm. (count and quality)  
I hope you get pregnant, and I hope I am too!
Let me know if you try these things and they work! But I promise, since I've started taking prenatals and coral calcium and getting enough fruits and veggies in my diet and less greasy foods and processed foods, I feel really great, and I feel more ready than ever for giving a baby the right environment to grow healthy.
Seriously, good luck, keep us updated!

[tinytoes200]

hi and welcome :)
the only thing i can say is DTD everyday and enjoy it!
i think what worked for me is i just gave up thinking about trying to get preggy,it was on my mind so much,testing everyday and realy overthinking it... anyway i decided to stop testing,i put away my calender and put getting pregnant out of my head.. it actually worked,i even forgot when af was due.. i worked it out one day and realised i was just over due af,so i tested and got my BFP..
good luck and enjoy getting there!