**Update on company after delivery.**

[LauraB78]

WELL...

I spoke with My Mom last night. She is coming Jan. 8th - Jan. 27th..

The only "upside" is she HAS made arrangements to stay elsewhere until I want her "help." She totally didn't understand why I was upset, said "I am not even close w/ My MOM and I WANTED HER there.."  More guilt tripping ensued.. I just basically decided she already made the plans and at least she isnt planning on staying with us.. Oh, and she went for more X-rays yesterday and she chipped a bone in her foot, not broke her foot, so they gave her clearance to drive and remove the "boot".. AT LEAST if we need her to run an errand or something, she now can.

She sounded so upset that I didn't want her IN the delivery room.. I stuck by my guns though and explained to her that I wanted it to be JUST Ken and I and necessary medical personnel.. She just doesn't (and I quote verbatim) "understand why I am sooo different than my sisters... She just ASSUMED I woudl want my Mother there.. " Blah, blah.. I told her to knock off the guilt trips.. So she stopped..

Ugh.. Not great news.. But it is what it is and I guess I am really thankful that she can stay w/ the family friend and still be nearby in case I decide I do want/need her..

Thanks again for all the input all!

[JoyRenee]

Glad this has turned out the way you wanted, in a way! Maybe you could console your mom by telling her she could be in the waiting room while you're in labor and delivery. The nurses will keep her out until you say she can come in (they're very protective of their new mommies!). Seems like a decent compromise. I know that as a mother of two daughters I'd feel hurt if one of them was having a baby and didn't want me there, even if I wasn't actually in there for the delivery.

Plus, if you do change your mind while in labor and want her there, she's just outside and can be called in. I know that some women do change their minds. Anyway, no matter what do what YOU want to do! Good luck and I'm hoping 2009 is filled with many blessings for us all!

[LauraB78]

Thanks all!!

And Happy New Year to you all! Have a safe and pleasant evening no matter what that consists of for you all!!  (As long is it is legal! =D )

GOODBYE 2008!!

C'MON 2009!!!

[agomez333]

I'm glad you were able to talk to her. She might not be able to understand right now and she may have hurt feelings, but she will get over it. I'm sure it will all be better after she sees her grandson for the first time. You mihgt feel differently too... There are so many emotions after a baby is born you NEVER know how you will feel till you get there yourself.
I understand about the delivery though as it will be only me and DH for this baby... I want my mom there after he is born cause she is awesome with the hospital personel and a big help, but thankfully we have been through this before and she now knows her boundaries and that if I need something I will ask... I hope you will get to that point with yourmom so if you dothe baby thing again in the future she will be more understanding...

I have already told everyone I will let them know when we are ready for visitors and I hope noe to offend anyone but thats the way it is... Babies r too vulerable for the first few weeks as their immune system is developing and it will be flu season.

Good luck and enjoy Jaxson when he comes!! They grow so fast so enjoy every moment!! Happy New Years!!

[justice6920]

Well... its not so bad, you told her what you needed to and it turned out ok! She wont be staying with you so thats a plus.... I mean this is YOUR TIME and YOUR first little one... you deserve it to be as special as you want and ANY way YOU and Ken want it! And she will be in town so at least she will be around to help when you and K want it! So dont feel bad... sometimes people (Even Mothers) need a firm hand (so dont feel bad about it, even tho they like to guilt trip us)...... So take a deep breath and relax, your almost there!

[johannaviles]

Agree with Lance ans Sweetangel, its your baby Laura...
Hope it all works out fine, BIG HUGS!

[Lance06]

So glad to hear things are going to go the way YOU want and planned on having them. This is your baby...and you get to call the shots!

Take it easy!

[sweetangel7]

Sounds like it went as well as possible...good for you for sticking to your guns though...the guilt trips etc are hard to overcome!