Way OT: Sex after baby/babies

[mamaofonetrying42]

I want to get an Idea of what a "normal" sex life is. My DH is always complaining is doesnt get it enough....I can def say that our sex life has changed A LOT in the last 10years we have been together. When we first started dating I can say we were "doing" it like every day but we were young! (lol 17&20) And we didnt have any kids.... It then switch to maybe everyother day to every two days( a few yr's in). Once we had our first son I dont remember what our sex life was like after that But fast foward to now, We are like having sex like on average once a week..Some weeks more and some weeks I can say we dont even make that once a week mark. But hey, I have 3 babies and I work almost full time. I AM TIRED!

Now I want to hear from the women who have been in a long term relationship, Not someone who only have been dating someone for like a year..since that 1st year of dating is new and you are prob doing it a lot more then someone who has been in a longer relationship

Also Not when your TTC

Thanks, girl!

[smjmekg]

LOL!!! Exactly! The only difference is there's no buttering up, sweet nothings, queen-like treatment...it's just get in bed, give me more than one little peck on the lips, drag me on top, wipe off, roll over and pass out...and that straight-out-of-a-romance-novel act is all over in 10 min tops...I can't complain about the time just cause, if it goes much longer I get bored, lol. My ex was an everyday, twice, maybe three times a day, at least 30 min type of person, and I got sick of it...maybe I shouldn't be complaining from a lack of sex with DH...but then again...I am pregnant again and the hormones are through the roof! Even tried last night after not seeing each other for four weeks and I got an "I'm exhausted, this weekend I promise"...I'm 6 months pregnant chasing a two year old and four dogs and a cat around all day...I don't think he even begins to comprehend the word "exhaustion".

[Ashelen]

Oh, Sab..I can totally relate to the prostitute...only WHERE'S MY MONEY BIATCH!?!?!?!??! because he'll butter me up...say sweet nothings...treat me like a queen..."get some", roll over, go to sleep, and whine and b*tch the whole next day. uh...."good job, ho, now make me a sammich" is how I feel sometimes LOL. not all the time..but I can definitely relate.

[smjmekg]

Sex? What's that? LOL! DH and I have been married for 3 years Sept 13, and I got pregnant the month after we got married with our first. To begin with it was at least every day, sometimes more than once, and the rarely a long stretch of every other day. Around 6-7 months pregnant, DH got grossed out, and no more sex til after baby was what he wanted...which S*cked! It's all I wanted when I was pregnant with DS, lol. Then DH got sent to Korea (Army), and for 8 months I didn't see him but for two weeks right after DS was born. So when DS was 6 months we were together again, and DS was freaked out cause there was a baby in the house, so again no sex...we started trying for number two and the only time we had sex was MAYBE every other day in my fertile time. Now that I'm pregnant with number two, and conceived in March it's back to once every two weeks, maybe once a week if I'm lucky...

And I agree that age CAN have something to do with it...but I'm only 24 and DH is only 27. He says he's too mature to think about it anymore, and it's not something he needs...(insert an "are you crazy" face) OH! AND we can ONLY have sex at night when DH is ready to go to sleep right after...no sex during nap time...nothing. DH wants to get in bed, get it on, get finished, and go to sleep...I'm starting to feel like a maid, nanny, and prostitute that doesn't get paid!

[Ashelen]

I think the topic was originally sex after babies? not just sex? maybe I read it wrong..??

it does stink when the kiddos are waking up before you...although today I was up before my daughter, which is RARE usually she's crawling into bed, prying my eyes open, and saying "morning!" like "oh hey you're up how'd that happen?' duh, lol.

[Cassandrajane]

Morning sex has to be the bestish... but it does get ruined with morning breath.. LOL....

If I am looking after my brother and sister.. and my boyf is round we sneak off.... say we are making food or cleaning out the animals (We have a zoo) LOL....
But morning sex, I do miss, because I wake up and have to get up because I duno LOL... just an energy burts LOL.. and sometimes we do sometimes we dont LOL..

x

[Limonada]

Ahhhhhh.....I remember daytime sex - vaguely, LOL.

Once our oldest (now almost 4) was sleeping in a big boy bed and could run into our room first thing in the morning when he woke up and started no longer napping, that pretty much killed that!  Now we have to wait until both kids are in bed.....I miss morning sex especially.....!!!