Weird fear of mine. :( No judgemental comments please..

[rosey3216]

So this is going to make me sound really immature. But. I have always had this weird social fear. Not like anxiety or fear of people in general or whatever. But ever since I was a kid I have always been a really shy person, and for some reason it just terrifies me to do things in public. Such as going to the bank to deposit/withdraw money, going to appointments by myself, I hate even calling places to set up appointments, order food or whatever. I have never ordered food through a drive thru (I don't drive either as that is an even bigger fear). I'm starting to sound ocd. :( But idk why it freaks me out so much, its like I have just always been paranoid that I am going to do or say the wrong thing and someone will look at me like I'm stupid,

[mommyto3girlies]

I was the same way, I've gotten a little better with it. I don't have issues driving or using drive thrus

[Bri_1985]

Defintely sounds like anxiety - not OCD though. Those get confused a lot but I am OCD so I can tell ya thats not the problem, could be part of the problem but Im no Dr so dont take my word for it. But I agree with others here saying to go through counciling. It will help a lot.

[Lissaleigh]

You described me to a t!

[mckee513]

I WAS the same way. My first born sorta brought me out if it. I couldn't order pizza over the phone didn't drive till I was 25 bad.... Having my son helped cause I had to do these things on my own now

[jwilliams81]

I dealt with this when I was younger not nearly as extreme but I was in counseling for some other things and this issue also got resolved. I was on medication for several years also. If you are going to take care of a baby and especially if you may end up alone I would really recommend looking into some kind of counseling now before baby gets here. It gets harder with a baby you have to make lots of appts you will have lots of questions and should not be scared to call for help

[Des92]

Dang, that really is a pickle.  At least I have my husband to hide behind.  Neither of us have a license either.. we depend on his mom at the moment but that works out okay for the most part.  Maybe seeing a counselor of some sort would help.. but I honestly don't know, I don't really believe talking to a stranger about how I feel going into a store alone will make me better especially knowing that they don't truly understand themselves.  Like I said, when I absolutely have to, I just push through it.

[rosey3216]

Yeah but I am mostly worried because my bf doesn't drive either (neither of us have a license) and I am terrified to take my drivers test, I'm scared to even make the calls to set it up. :( and also idk if me and my bf are going to work out long term so if I'm a single mom then I'm TOTALLY on my own. :'(( I'm so scared.. this *****!!

[Des92]

I meant (sp?) not so lol

[Des92]

Yea people say that to me, but like I said NO ONE understands unless they have the same problem.  I don't know if I even really deal with it myself.  Most of the time I have my husband there with me, and I always feel like if I am going anywhere I have to have someone I am comfortable with by my side, so he helps a lot.  If I do have to do something myself or alone, I try to do it as quickly as possible and I avoid eye contact and talking as much as I can.  I know, to most people it seems silly and childish.. and believe me I wish I wasn't like this, I wish it was as easy for me to do things as it is your average person.  When I talk on the phone to make like appointments or talk to someone I don't know I always feel really tense and like I feel like I am going to studder (so?).  I think just baring through things is the only way I make it!  By the way my baby will be here in less then a week, I will be induced on Monday... so I know what it's like to worry about this with an upcoming baby.  :(

[meNmy3Cs]

Im sorta the same i hate doing things alone. Like u i think its from my mom always doing everything for me. But i learned that u gotta do what ya gotta do. There still alot i won't do unless i really have to. Like i hate going to appointments,shopping,driving,and everything else alone but wen hubby or my bro ain't available i got to. Also i think the fear of failing at any lil thing bothers me it ***** but i just can't help it. I was a cashier for 2yrs n that helped me a lil but i think i still need improvement cuz i hate the feeling. Good to know im not alone n crazy with this (:

[searra]

I have something similar. I freak out driving really bad i havent drove a car in 4 years. Im not good with people on the phone or i get a stutter which makes me sound like a kid. Standing in grocery lines close to everyone freaks me out.

[rosey3216]

@des how do you deal with it? Like everyone is saying "you're gonna have a baby soon, you're gonna have to get over that and you're gonna have to drive you can't rely on other people anymore" but I already know that! I just don't know how to get over it or at least cope with it :(

[Des92]

I am this EXACT  same way, I'm not playing.  Sometimes it gets so bad I start to shake.  No one that isn't this way will ever understand.......

[hayang]

this sounds like an anxiety disorder nd I'd mention it to your doc

[rosey3216]

Idk why I am so paranoid about it, I just always have been because my whole life, my dad has always done everything for me. Which makes me sound like a spoiled brat, but at the time I didn't know that it would hinder me in the future from being responsible. :/

[lovemykids319]

I use to feel the same as for not wanting to call places but i got over i use repeat in my head you have to do it

[rosey3216]

Stupid phone. Anyway, I think the big fear behind it all is I HATE looking like I don't know what I'm doing. Even with sex, because my bf is way more experienced than me, I always feel like I'm looking stupid. How do I handle this? Everyone basically tells me to just learn to get over it, but I have been trying and I just can't..?