Husband scared of delivery

[Jwilliams229]

Hi everyone!  My husband is starting to freak out about delivery.  He has always said he will stay at my head and doesnt want to watch the baby come out.  Which I am perfectly fine with.  But now he is starting to freak out that what happeneds if he passes out and all.  My doctor suggested he watch some video on youtube of live births and see how he does.  Anyone have any other suggestions that might help him out.  I personally think he will be fine and the fact of seeing his son will take over but anything that he can do to prep might be a good idea.

[Jwilliams229]

thanks guys! at least I am not the only one.  Ill see what i can accomplish in the next few months I know nothing is 100% just want to try to lessen the anziety a little lol

[mrssandefur]

Haha I'm having a C-Section and my husband wasn't in there when I had our son (we had just started dating and he biologically isn't the father and thought it'd be strange so.my beat friend went.in with me) anyway so I showed him the videos she had gotten of the C-Section and at one point she accidentally filmed them pulling him out cause she heard him cry and didn't realize only his head was out lol. Anyway so he's watching these videos of our son being born and starts to get all white it was hilarious! He said threshold no way he's gonna accidentally or purposely see the baby being pulled outta ne he will wait until they lift him up lol. I asked him if he'd be able to cut the cord and he said he didn't know I told him he has no choice lol. Men crack.me up always talking about how strong and tough they are, yeah until it.comes to.their babies or us getting hurt. Lol

[MamaBear0612]

Lol. I was kidding my ex-boyfriend all weekend that he was going to keel over during the birth, and all I'd hear was a big thump when he'd hit the ground. He handles medical emergencies all day, so I was really amused at the thought. I think they'll all be okay, they're tough guys right? ;)

[momabear86]

My chap is the same. He's less about being screamish but more doesn't like seeing me in pain. He will be there for me tho. Like you said give him time and he's instincts and adrenaline may take over.

[Lesley27]

My guy was the same way...he was so nervous and he HATES hospitals!  i actually arranged a friend of mine to be in the delivery room with us as well that could support him so i wouldnt have to worry about him... well anyway i ended in a csection! so he was in the OR with me!! he got to sit for that but i could just imagine what he was thinking waiting to come in the room! I had amazing staff in there! they were so good to him, the second our daughter was born the nurse took the camera and went and got pictured for us so he didnt have to get up, they kept asking how he was doing and made sure we were BOTH doing good.....
So this time we are gonna do the Csection again and im not sure how he is gonna handle it... but he made it through the first time! And with the first time he had to help with the epideral.... i leaned on him.... so if all that didnt tramatize him!....

[Factorymomma]

Yea, in no way is he less of a man.  Heck I get lightheaded and grossed out watching birth videos! But I have no problem taking care of someone's wound post-surgery.... Makes no sense to me lol!

[Heatherm4]

Another good video to watch is The Business of Being Born with Rikki Lake.
I think if you just help him understand that there's going to be no hard feelings or anything if he admits that he's lightheaded or needs to sit down then that would be good too.
He's not going to seem "less manly" if he needs to take a breather. Being in the labour room would be pretty intense!

[lil_misss23]

Good post cause ive been thinking the same this last week. Ive got 6 Weeks to go. My bd passed out twice at the hospital when he cut his foot open. He didnt handle that too well. The chair thing is a good idea! So they can sit if they need to but will still be right there. Prob have a bottle of water ready too. He keeps saying he's scared for me to go through labor. Lol. I think they will be ok :)

[Factorymomma]

The you tube videos are a great idea.  Something to help him in the delivery room is for him to remember not to lock his knees! That seems to be a contributing factor in guys passing out.  They get stressed, lock up their knees, get lightheaded (and don't realize they need to just maybe squat for a second to increase the blood flow),.and pass out lol.
Plus just a chair positioned behind him just in case will kinda provide security.  If he feels faint he can sit for a second, or just know it's there :-)  that might help in it's self :-)