vent. feeling lonely/unwanted

[mummatobe92]

So I'm almost 32 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend hasnt come near me (sex) since I've started showing so the last few months are now making me feel down.. He feels like it freaks him out because he doesnt want to feel the baby kicking and so on.. And I am now feeling very unloved and dont know why I am here like his not attracted to me as he hasnt even complained once like he misses it or anything :-( I dont know what to do now :-(

[20preggers13]

Aww sorry u don't feel wanted. Some men are just like that during pregnancy but it will pass. I would try other things to feel close to him like take a shower or bath together, have him give you a massage, or go on a walk and hold hands. It's not exactly the same but still helps!

[mummatobe92]

I've told him.. A few times actually.. He thinks the world is now messing with people cause all they want is sex, when all I want is to feel close to him again.. He loves feeling the baby he even sits with his head there so he can be kicked in the head haha, just wont touch me! I've tried initiating it and it's now to the point I cry cause he pushes me away every time!

[BabyTurnip]

Im sorry hun :( my husband actually loves tge baby bump and jumps on every occation to feel his son move and kick. And sometimes i feel like im the one thats not giving him enough loving in bed. I would definately try and talk to ur hubby and actually tell him heart to heart how u feel.....like u did here :) u need to make him understand thats all :)

[Sarah765]

Think of other things to do to please eachother.  The baby kicking really creeps my husband out too, he wont feel my belly at all.  And with our first he didnt even want to be in the delivery room with me (I made him of course) , he has never wanted to cut the cord, or have anything to do with a lot of it.  The baby just freaks him out. It bothered me at first, but now I think its kinda funny.  Try not to take it personally because Im sure its not meant to be that way.  Try some other things for a while, dont mention baby close to times you may be intamite with eachother, I know the times that my husband has been like your boyfriend its not the sex itself I miss but the intamacy and feeling wanted.  I would stop talking about it at all, instead do something else to be intimate, hopefully that will bring back his desire, talking too much about it just ends up making them want it less.  If he does end up getting the desire back, try positions where the belly is fully out of the way, so he doesnt have to think about it.  I know its hard, but just know your not alone, a lot of men are the same way.

[Tiffanyswp]

Your best bet is get your doctor to tell him he might beleive the doctor

[mummatobe92]

Wahhh!! I just tried telling him and his response was thats what the epidural is for -.- definitely feel unloved now!!

[Tiffanyswp]

Awwl u gotta convince him let him know around this time the doctor honestly want u to have sex plus u will have a easier labor

[mummatobe92]

I've told him he cant hurt him or nothing but he got kicked last time and hasnt touched me since because he is freaked out.. And I thought it was suppose to be a beautiful thing :/

[Tiffanyswp]

I had the same problem u should just take advantage n show him everything is ok he cant hurt nothing cause your cervix is close