almost 6 days late.

[chlclizabeff]

So, I'm almost 6 days late. Still havent gotten a pregnancy test yet. Headaches, Gas, Bloating, Dizzy! No cramps, peeing a lot, very thirsty all the time, nauseous!!!!!! oh yeah, and I'm having hot flashes! I don't know if that would be related to pregnancy at all. Woke up with a slight back ache and my pelvic area feels tight. Getting more and more nervous everyday. Anyone else feel like this?

[g8r grl]

We all know that you're going to do whatever it is that you want to do, but you came on this site seeking advice from women who are older than you, more experienced in life, and understand how difficult it is to raise a child, even as an adult.

I know this won't make you happy hearing this, but raising a child and being an adult is something you can't possibly comprehend until you actually do it yourself and you are soley responsible for another individual. A lot of girls say "well I help my friend with her baby" or "I practicly raised my little brother"...NOT the same, by a longshot.

I'm sure EVERY mom on this sight has cried more than once wishing she had her old life back BEFORE children...even if they are 40-years-old. It's hard, and, like I said, you can't understand until you do it yourself. I think we all see that you're 17 and know that you need to live life a little longer before you tie yourself down with a huge responsibility. We don't want you to make a mistake that you can't take back and lose out on your childhood and early adult life.

[chlclizabeff]

i wouldnt expect other people to pay for my child. i would find a job, and i wouldnt go on goverment money. i came on this site for advice, not lectures. and to see what other peolpe thought it might have been before i spent money or went to the doctor. i did not come on here for other people to tell me what to do. its my life ill live it the way i want. it may not be what you think is "right" but its what makes ME happy. if i dont want to use birth control, im not going to. also, why be so negative about a guy sticking around. you dont know him. and you also dont know me. i may be very different from any teenager you know. and he definately is different from any teenager you know. so any of you that have anything negative or rude to say, please, mind your own business. wow i didnt know when coming on this site i would get lectures of what i should and shouldnt do. im sorry, are you my mother? you must be mistaken.

[g8r grl]

There is nothing wrong with being on the pill AND using condoms. I doubt anyone who used both methods correctly ever got any surprise pregnancies.

You said in an earlier post that you had $3 and could get a couple of $ from your boyfriend if you needed to. Please do not have a child when you're 17 and do not have a full-time job. Once you have a baby and go on government support, you rarely ever come off of it.

Be responsible...wait until you're older and can afford it. Do not rely on other people to pay for your children (that's where the free money from the government comes from...taxpayers!)

[sweetpea03]

Have you thought about joining a sport/club/activity or something to meet others your age to make friends. It's good to have people other than your boyfriend to hang out with. Also, getting a job can help you meet others too and bring in some income to make you more independent. You make think your boyfriend will be around always, but that is not always the case. No one wants to think about their significant other leaving them, but many times high school relationships don't last. You seem very dependent on him and expect him to provide for you. You need to think about what you would do if he leaves, even if you never think that will happen. Also, birth control is very effective and it's extremely rare to get pregnant while on birth control. It's around 99% effective. And if you don't trust it so well, then use 2 types. You can be on the pill or another type of birth control AND your boyfriend can use condoms.

[jenkaye21]

fyi- getting pregnant while on birth control is very very rare.  There's no reason not to trust it.  Most methods are 99+% effective.  That's not 100%, but it sure is close! It would save you from going thru this stress and worrying in the near future.  Good luck!

[chlclizabeff]

i dont hang out with friends because i dont have but one. im in home school so i wouldnt have prom or homecoming. my boyfriend is graduated so i wouldnt have one anyways. i have a week left of my first semester in senior year. i would graduate. and he wouldnt leave. he loves kids and stuff and would take care of it if that had been the outcome. he is responsible. but it just scared him because its our first encounter of having to go buy a pregnancy test and stuff. its my first time being late so i freaked out as well. and no... this time in my life isnt fun. i know life and love isnt like the fairytails. trust me i know. im not some clueless 17 year old. i actually know quite a lot about pregnancy and life after pregnancy.  and sometimes its hard to believe in birth control. my mom got pregnant all three times on birth control and she used it right at the same time everyday. i think if its going to happen, its going to happen either way. if its the right time or the wrong time. ive learned. its a scary feeling thinking your pregnant, and its kind of dissapoiting when you find out your not. bu its also kind of relieving.