Marriage now or later!?

[chelle_a_xox]

Me and my bf do plan on getting married, it's just that we don't have the money now and now i'm pregnant. My mum has made it quite clear that getting married now is a good idea for the baby. The only reason we are not getting married now is that we want a decent wedding and not a rushed one. My mum keeps drumming into me to get married in a regisrty office is a good choice and it is for the baby sake. What do you girls think?

[jmv143]

I agree having a baby is no reason to get married especially when it's rushed. I didn't marry my husband till almost 4 yrs after our daughter was born, and at that I honestly think we wouldn't have married if he hadn't join the military.  I only made the choice to get married because I knew he was starting a career and that he was going to be able to provide for us. I didn't care about the benefits I was gonna have but the life he was going to provide for us. Yes I did love him and still do but I had to be sure we were doing the right thing by waiting. 2 yrs later we are happily married and living a healthy life. If you really love your be and he loves you, you will marry when it's the right time. Parenthood is the ultimate test on a relationship,  some make it, some don't. Just don't feel pressured if you both really want to get married by all means do it but not because ppl say it's wats best. Just think how many ppl do we know in this world that married just because of children and separated or stayed in an abused marriage just for their children.  My gma was in an abused marriage and only married because she got pregnant.  She was 25 when she got pregnant and married.  After 21 years of being in an abusive marriage she finally divorced and only because he kids were grown and out of the house. I only bring this up because she was forced to because it was the hispanic thing to do no matter how the marriage was. Like I said before if you marry now just make sure it's what your ready for and not because of the baby.  Good luck and wish you the best.

[sharon_oertwich]

Don't rush things, you'll regret it later, and also probably blame him and your mom, do things on your own time, and even though it might seem like it's not a good idea at the time, everything will fall down in its right place at the right time

[brit_01]

Me and my bf was goin to do the same but we found out I was pregnant and I didn't like the idea of being pregnant and getting married cause then how could I enjoy the honeymoon lol.... I know moms have a big part in things but really this is completely up to u and your bf and Yal feel....

[briscooby95]

My fiance nd I decided to get married next yr on our anniversary. He wanted to do it this yr, but I told him that just becuz we r havin a baby, doesnt mean we need to get married rite away. I also want our son to be there when we get married(:

[MorganElizabeth18]

In my opinion , having a baby is no reason to rush off && get married . (My family wants me to) so if you're waiting because you want a wedding , then wait . Either way your baby will be happy (:

[beccymarie]

Im sitting in the same boat. My family seems to be pressuring marriage on to my boyfriend and  i since we've found out we're pregnant. Personally, I dont feel like we're ready for marriage yet. With or with out a baby. This child is going to be test enough to see if we can handle the stress and still be great together. And we just dont have the money either.
dont let anyone else tell you what you should do. Things are gonna be different when the baby comes, so take your time and enjoy it. Get married when you feel like you're ready to do it. After all, you're the one who has to live with the choices you make.

[tmarie1991]

My fiance and I just got engaged but we are waiting to do wedding until next summer as our daughter is due in june this year and I want a year to plan and not be rushed! You will be happier in the end not rushing!

[chelle_a_xox]

Thank you for your feedback, really helps alot. Hope you have a lovely wedding :)

[GeekMom1213]

The baby will have no idea whether or not you're married. The baby doesn't care. Kids don't know what "marriage" is - but they know what love feels like when they see it, and that's all they care about.
If you want to wait to be able to afford the kind of wedding you want, you're going to have to stand up to your mum. Tell her that getting married is a big decision requiring a lot of planning and that the decision can only be made by two people - neither of which is her. That you want to be able to celebrate with friends and family in a beautiful place, not in an office with cheap tile floors in front of strangers.
My partner and I thought about having the "quickie marriage" like your mum is suggesting, and decided against it. We wanted the same thing you want - a celebration worthy of the relationship. Our son turned 3 last month, I finally finished my degree in December, and we will marry in June of this year. We put it off for a long time but we're getting exactly the wedding we want. It's your day - you get to choose. Don't let her pressure you into something you don't want.

[chelle_a_xox]

I meant i shouldn't

[chelle_a_xox]

Thanks for the advice, your right i should get myself worked up about this. My mum is really good at that!

[libellula]

There is no benefit to the baby, married or not. Don't feel pressured. My boyfriend and I have been together over 8 years and are expecting our first. A lot of people have a hard time with being unmarried and having a baby, it's just traditional, but it's YOUR life, not theirs. Your baby will not care. Do what you feel is best for you and your partner :)

[MamaMoochee]

It's really all up to what you want to do.  If you did want to get married before the baby was born you could get married in the registry office and then have the ceremony later.