Im so scared!!!!

[gillianl]

There's nothin wrong with me except I'm 12 weeks pregnant and its only now sinking in I'm going to be a mum.  I can't stop crying, this is my first pregnancy. Everyone seems to think I should be excited because we've been trying so long but I just can't seem to switch the happy feelings on. I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow making me feel worse. Am I the only one who's went through this? Will my feelings ever change?

[waitn838]

what you are feeling is normal, especially for the first baby....you have been trying for a long time and the reality of it is setting in

you will be on an emotional roller coaster the entire preg but i guarentee once you see that baby and beating heart tomorrow you will feel relief and smile to yourself

i am preg with twins and im freaking out....its like its the first preg all over again because i have singletons but never twins so i am wondering how i will hold them, feed them, put them to bed....all those feelings

good luck tomorrow and remember you have a ton of women here that will help support you and get you through this preg

congrats :)

[PetiteWonder]

12 weeks isnt bad.. I didnt really start hitting this reality until 20 weeks... .I think I was just so worried a bout it not going well that I didnt think about birth and the baby part...  Obviously I want this baby more than anything but there have definitely been times when its like omg everything is going to change..

Last week, I was feeling alot of mood swings feeling sad around thinking about my husband and how it will no longer just be me and him.....  and losing that is scary to me...

[gillianl]

Thanks everyone, heading to bed will let you know how the scan goes tomorrow :-)

[Ashelen]

oh hon I didn't feel "bonded" to my daughter until 2 or 3 weeks after she was born...it was my first baby, I was terrified, and I was SO alone..so I totally relate.

the one thing I wish that someone had told me that I can tell you is to trust yourself....it's OK not to bond right now, there's no reason to feel guilty or scared for a lack of bond...it's NORMAL and OK....you will be just fine.

I promise...sooner or later the instincts will kick in and you'll be on cloud 9...but you have to learn to trust yourself and give yourself a break <3

[cnhauk]

Maybe the reason you don't feel a bond yet is because it doesn't feel real yet. You probably don't see much of a bump, you don't feel baby at all yet, and you haven't really seen baby. I think the other girls are right. Once you have your u/s tomorrow, and once you start showing and feeling baby, I'm sure you'll fall completely in love and be super extatic about it! Good luck tomorrow :]

[gillianl]

Thanks guys, can't stop crying tonite.  I just want things to go well and I still don't feel a bond but wish it would kick in soon, I feel like a bad mum already, feel alone as well at times as Alan works constant niteshift.  Will see how things go after my scan tomorrow

[Ashelen]

No Gill don't beat yourself up....whatever you're feeling is normal. If you feel overwhelmed you can always talk about anti-depressants in the 2nd tri...but I think that once you start moving along in the pregnancy you will begin to feel a little less frightened.

I know how long you've wanted this...so I can totally understand why you're so afraid.

BUT I think tomorrow will help as you'll see things progressing normally, and hopefully as your hormones settle a bit in the 2nd tri things will level out and you'll be able to enjoy this.

[justice6920]

Its normal to feel this way about any pregnancy - its new, its scary, and its a BIG life change... the horemones also dont help lol - I felt this way with my second - I was terrified, afraid that I could not love another baby as much as I loved my first....the moment they placed him in my arms my heart just melted and I knew all would be ok no matter what... He is my heart