Aa
so confused
As some of y'all know from previous posts we have 2 of my husbands friends living with us (a friend from work and his best friend) and my husband is 8 months sober. Well my husbands best friends gf just called me crying (she's pregnant also) because he is over at another friends getting messed up on real and fake drugs. I don't know what to do about it. She told me that he said if she's tells us then they won't be together and her family will make her put her baby up for adoption if nick doesn't straighten up (I told her they can't do that but she is young and scared). But I feel like I have a responsibility to my husband for his said and for the sake of my family to say something to my husband. I don't want someone like that in our lives (especially if he is supposed to be my husbands "best friend") and he is sneaking around our backs to get messed up. Idk what to do. Should I say something to my husband or do I see if he will be the bigger man and say something too him? I told his gf she can stay with us for the night so she doesn't have to be in that environment or explain to her mom why she isn't spending the night with nick just for those of y'all interested in what she's gonna do
So for those of y'all wondering, my husband and I were rece fly told that nick has been sneaking into our house drunk and with drugs on him. So he is out. It ***** that people really disrespect others like that. I'm really upset that someone my husband trusted so much has stabbed us in the back.
Yes it is I was very worried that he would be pissed or more upset than he was but I think he handled it wonderfully.
Aww im glad ur hubby is doing/thinking the right way and its good to now he has no intentions of falling into old habits im glad he took it well and didnt get defensive about it :)
Yes our views on drug usage comes from his drug use. Like I had said my husband is 8 months sober so drugs are a no no. And she has a place to stay she lives with her mom but she doesn't want to have to explain why she isn't with nick tonight. So I said she could spend the night here. But you prettymuch got the situation down. I know its hard to understand
. I Said something hinting at him doing those drugs without saying anything about it specifically so I didn't get my friend into trouble with nick so my husband has a hint but doesn't know anything for sure. I told her that we would tell nick I just asked if they were coming home and she told me they were at his friends house. My husband wants to talk to him but I think he is very disappointed. He also agreed that if he can't get his life.on track then we don't need to keep trying to help him. (He was staying with us because he just got out of jail for violation of probation and was on probation for stealing a bike from Walmart) he said if he wants to keep acting that way then he can end up back in jail but my husband doesn't want nick to ruin everything that he has tried so hard for.
Thank you ladies for yalls advice. Y'all were very helpful (even if it was confusing lol). I'm hoping that everything turns out well.
. I Said something hinting at him doing those drugs without saying anything about it specifically so I didn't get my friend into trouble with nick so my husband has a hint but doesn't know anything for sure. I told her that we would tell nick I just asked if they were coming home and she told me they were at his friends house. My husband wants to talk to him but I think he is very disappointed. He also agreed that if he can't get his life.on track then we don't need to keep trying to help him. (He was staying with us because he just got out of jail for violation of probation and was on probation for stealing a bike from Walmart) he said if he wants to keep acting that way then he can end up back in jail but my husband doesn't want nick to ruin everything that he has tried so hard for.
Thank you ladies for yalls advice. Y'all were very helpful (even if it was confusing lol). I'm hoping that everything turns out well.
Yes tell him ive never been addicted to anything but I can imagine its hard work to stay off so for the sake of ur hubby tell him your hubby needs good ppl around him who understand his struggle not ppl who r gonns influence him good luck hun
Just trying to make sure I'm understanding this, it's not your husband doing the drugs right? It's his best friend nick, who is staying at your place? And your husband is not with him now while he's doing these drugs, so he doesn't know about it?
If I am interpreting this right (if I'm not disregard this lol) then you should tell your husband, especially because you are uncomfortable with his drug usage. It is just as much your house as it your hubbys and you deserve a say in who (and what) is allowed in your home. Does your husband share the same opinion with you on drug usage? Because that will make the conversation a lot easier.
As for your friend, she is lucky to have someone wonderful like you to offer a place for her, but if Nick comes home (to your home) then wouldn't that defeat the purpose of getting her away from this (this is why I am not quite sure if I am understanding the situation.) But you should definitely reassure her that her family can't place her baby up for adoption, that is her decision and hers alone. Even if she lives with them. They don't have rights to the baby, those are all hers.
If I am interpreting this right (if I'm not disregard this lol) then you should tell your husband, especially because you are uncomfortable with his drug usage. It is just as much your house as it your hubbys and you deserve a say in who (and what) is allowed in your home. Does your husband share the same opinion with you on drug usage? Because that will make the conversation a lot easier.
As for your friend, she is lucky to have someone wonderful like you to offer a place for her, but if Nick comes home (to your home) then wouldn't that defeat the purpose of getting her away from this (this is why I am not quite sure if I am understanding the situation.) But you should definitely reassure her that her family can't place her baby up for adoption, that is her decision and hers alone. Even if she lives with them. They don't have rights to the baby, those are all hers.
And he isn't buying it he is just being provided it. But now he will know where to get it.
Well that was my concern was what about later. My aunt used to say "you can only hang out with the barber shop for so long until you get a hair cut". I don't want nick to ruin what my husband has worked so hard to achieve
That's your husband ...I have to tell mines everything or I feel IM keeping something from him but if their situation affects her and nick then I don't think u have to tell him he may already know ....most I'd do is give advise to her cause if it gets out there's going to be conflict in another couples relationship unless u find a way for your husband to approach him with the place he got the info as being anonymous
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