I didn't put my bd on his birth certificate nor did he know I had my son.. As far as I'm concerned I want nothing from him :)
When I file for full custody do I have to talk to my case manager or actually go to social services? I'ma first time mom so all this is a whole new thing for me.
Whether you put him on the birth certificate or not ur best bet is filing for full custody that gives you all control.
My oldest birth certificate said father unknown until I started getting child support and because a dna test was demanded from her donor domestic relations out it on there. My 3week old we had to sign a bunch of paternity papers in order for her dad to even sign the birth certificate because we aren't married...
Yea. Idk if its the same in CA as it is in Missouri but I would look into the laws and ask your case worker just to be sure.
Very true Rockrose (: thank you!
Momma, I think it's great that you're going to talk to the social worker. The more you know, the more you know. ;D
@rockrose I live in california but plan on moving with my fam elsewhere. He does knw my full name and where I used to live not where I currently live, but.doesnt know my social. He says he will be putting.child support On himself but.I will be denying all his request. I.will definately be asking the social worker at my hospital!
@mamakali: really? I have wic , medical and ca optima and I reported I live with my dad and won't be getting back with my daughters father and they said its fine. :o
@jsulliva: I'm not doing it out of spite, I'm planning all this becus he's more of a sperm donor and he isnt doing any effort in showing that he cares for his daughter. Im due in 3mnths and he has yet to buy anything for her, go to dr appts or even send a simple txt to see if she's okay. A last name is a privelage not mandatory.
Momma, you might want to talk to the social worker in the hospital and discuss this.
In California, he does have the legal right to try to establish paternity even if you don't want him to.
I'm assuming he knows your full legal name, a place where you have lived in the past, probably your birthdate, etc.
He has the right to try to establish legal paternity and get visitation rights. You might want to be prepared for that.
Oops! Support and put his name on the birth certificate. I didn't know that when I had my daughter :-(
If you plan on using any state assistance, ie food stamps, Medicaid, etc they will mandate DNA testing and enforce child
He can have you order in to court and ask for a dna test. U night be mad at him now but think about ur daughter he may not be worthy to be in her life but she does deserve to know especially when she grows up she's gonna ask you all those questions. It's a big decision to make but ultimately it is urs he can go on birth certificate and you can just get full sole and legal custody.
No it wont bite you in the ***.
@baby2inthemaking its hard & sounds messed up right. But hey if they aren't putting any effort in the babys life, then they don't deserve any privelages!
Well I'm in California , but he doesn't know my address or anything so I'm sure it will be difficult for him to find me ! Thanks(:
I've been wondering the same things!
Okay, then there isn't really any problem with not having him on it. If he tries to do that, all you have to do is not show up I'm guessing, because if he isn't on the birth certificate the courts will make him do a DNA test and if you don't show up to it there is no proof for them to go off of for child support. That's how it is here anyways. Good luck! :)
He's planning on putting himself child support , but I told him I dont want his money and will deny all request for.it.
If you want child support they will have him do a DNA test then put him on it.