totally ruined my night..

[RRL1325]

So my bf tonight told me tht he thinks it wld b a good idea for him to go in the airforce.. I say no cuz i want him here with me and for our son whose going to be born in sept. Our first kid together. :(

[lovelyglover]

Just be thankful he has been there for your whole pregnancy I am going on 14 weeks and my husband deploys the 20th of next.month and wont return home for a few months after the baby is born. Although I hate the fact that he is deploying I am very thankful for what the marines has provided us and I know.my child will be well off and taken care of. IMO the military is a great option because yu know yu will always be taken care of financially but like the other poster said I would recommend getting married before hand if He does decide to enlist

[kennimae92]

Also I know when I was going in there are A LOT of regulations to even get in. They have to check your complete background and your family's background. You can only have a certain amount of speeding tickets. If you have any tickets that aren't paid you are ineligible to leave for basic unless it is paid. You can't have asthma. If he has had certain surgeries he can't join unless there's a medical waiver. This info was correct as of a year ago so I have no idea if things have changed since I was joining. There is so much in it to get approved and if you guys do decide to go the route of the air force I wish you all the luck :)

[camerinj]

Another thing to consider about the air force is that their deployment is usually for a shorter period of time but there are more of them. That doesn't mean there aren't long deployments, but they are less likely in the air force than the army, for example.

[RRL1325]

Thanks everyone i didnt think bout any of tht before and i appreciate all the comments. We aee atill talking bout it so we will see where it goes frm there thank you. All of you hav made me feel better.

[mommyTobe_12]

My bf left for training in march when I was around 22 weeks pregnant. He signed up for the army before we found out I was pregnant. He was away for basic training, a few weeks to get his ged, now it'll be 3 weeks til he's back home from ait. our first baby was born on Tuesday morning. it ***** SO bad, I didn't think I was gonna beable to do any of it on my own, and specially him missing the birth of his first child was soo hard. but honestly, as selfish as I was and tryn to get him to stay home.. it's been really good for him and he's happy doing what he's doing. he deff try's every way possible to keep up to date with me and our son. you could always ask your bf to wait until your baby's born, before signing anything as the poster above said. goodluck Hun hope everything works out for the best !

[kennimae92]

Agreed with usmcwife it ***** but now a days it's worth it and i have been around the military since I've been born. And I also agree with above to get married beforehand IF he would still want to join after the baby.

At this time last year I was already set and sworn in to go to the air force. It was a 6 month process and that was pretty short. I ended up not going a week before basic training as my now husband asked me to get married and live with him at his duty station and everything. But honestly I wouldn't shoot the idea down until you BOTH go to a recruiter together and figure it out from there. He could even take his ASVAB and see if he is even eligible because of having to have such a high score. Don't shoot sown an idea without truly getting all the facts like going to a recruiter, talking to a family that is in that branch (my brother left when my niece was 5 months), and talking to a vet. But that's all my opinion.

[Usmcwife4511]

I am a military wife and I can honestly say that the pros of him being in the military outweigh the cons. You get a steady paycheck good insurance and either base housing or extra pay added to his check for living expenses. Yes it ***** at times when he goes away for training or deployment but in the long run its better. I suggest asking him to wait until your baby is born to sign his contract. The air force has a pretty long waiting list though so he could sign and not be sent to basic training for a while...

[agrell]

My husband was gonna join the marines when I was pregnant with our son but after our son was born he couldn't leave him...and he was suppose to sign the papers the next day so I would ask him to hold off on signing till he at least sees and holds his son for the first time because he might have a change of heart good luck love

[rachb11]

i am so on your side chick. but they military wont take my fiance for some reason can't remember, but he tried before i even knew him. but i would never let him go into it. its not the fact that i think the military is terrible and maybe its me being selfish idk. but for MYSELF i could not be away from the one i love SO so much and is my one and only best friend just up and leave me like that. he was in jail for 3 months after only 2 months of being together, and it really really su.cked i wrote him a lot and he wrote me a lot but just the fact of being away from him was terrible. lol saying that i would beg him to stay haha but that's just me. hopefully he changes his mind soon. wish you the best!

[JBontheway]

I'm sorry :( but like me and my husband have been talking about him going into the military. I would be worried but i also know its really for the best. Great benefits and base housing. It's worth it in my opinion. But September isn't too far away just ask him to stay atleast until you have the baby. We have a son and another on the way, the military is really a good thing. He can pick up on other training while he's in service and may not necessarily be sent to a war zone. You never know but they will also pay for any schooling he might want. That could get him a great job somewhere. I come from a military family. I mean the pay isn't excellent but its enough and the base housing is free. I think they don't even have utility bills. But I would say if you and your bf are serious, then maybe consider getting married before he enlisted that way if he had to be stationed somewhere else you could go with him. They won't do it unless you are a family unit. But i think its a great option :)

[glittergirl88]

He might change his mind once the baby is here, he may not want to leave his son. Tell him to make the decision after you have the baby.