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4556548 tn?1358000013

bubbas name...

Would it be a bxtch of me to change the name my x partner chose for my son? Because i never really liked it in the first place. And take ny last name instead of his?
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If you don't like it change it! And the last name thing is all your decision....
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Nope. I already decided that if my bf decides to bail I'm doing the same thing.
4191640 tn?1361174727
I thought the exact same thing If mine ever bailed on me. I don't think It's wrong. If he doesn't want to be In the kid's life, then why does he have a say In It. I'm juss assumin' since you said "EX" hopefully he will still help you out, I really do hope so, but If he doesn't want to make things better with you, I say do whatever you please!
4556548 tn?1358000013
I know its my decision and i know he will go off at me when i tell him. I just dont want everyone elsr to think im being a bxtch for doing so :-\
Avatar universal
Nah. And besides, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. :)
4191640 tn?1361174727
^ Exactly. It's what makes you happy, not every one else.
Avatar universal
The way I see it you are doing all the work so its your say. Im doing the same thing. Last names too. Pregnancy is hard, you deserve some credit!
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I think is up to you not the others. It happen to me when I had my first bby I had deside not to put on his last name because he was an ***.. My family got on me n tell me why wold I do that. Now my doughter is 9 yrs old hes never bn involved in her life n she hates his last name n she tells me to change it..
4385387 tn?1358633945
People will talk I'm sure if you change it but it is YOUR baby. If you want your son to have your last name, do it. Many feel a baby having the fathers last name is a honor type thing. My son would have his fathers last name even if we weren't together. I saw it that's his father no matter if I hate him or not. The choice is up to you though. Do what you would like. Don't let others get to you.
4562329 tn?1363818660
You have to go through the pain so you pick the name if he wants to pick the name let him push the baby out. This is my second child with my bf i really picked out the names but let him think that he picked. The only thing he got was the last name if he really knew.
Avatar universal
It will be a fight. But if you two aren't together and are not going to be, then it would be easier for you in the future when it comes to your child going to school and such for you to have the same last names.  Ultimately your choice.
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