may be pregnant..

[spretty]

I'm 19 years old, and my fiancee is 22. I had my last period at the ending of October, and since then had unprotected sex. A few weeks later I had serious bloating, nauseau, and been having morning sickness 1-3 times a morning, every day or two. My boobs are unbearably sore, I don't even want to wear a shirt. I can't stop urinating, all that jazz. But the thing is, my fiancee is pushing an abortion on me if I am. We live with his parents while they save up for us with the rent we pay, but they said theyd kick us out, my mom won't take us in, my dad in Newfoundland would but fiancee wont leave Ontario. He doesnt understand the fact that I never thought I could get pregnant, from trauma in my past, so this would be a blessing for me, as all I've ever wanted was a family and some one who loved me as unconditionally as I love them. He won't have it at all, I feel like I'm being forced into an abortion because the baby will ruin our lives, we won't have money for it and "everything we planned, everything we wanted will be gone".  I completely understand his point... But there's people in worse situations that manage. I feel like I won't feel the same about Jim after this abortion.

[spretty]

Thank you all, I've tried talking to him multiple times, every time he says he's willing to deal with me, just.not a child. He thinks the baby will tear us apart before anything else. His biggest problem is that I grew up in a broken home, never had stability until.I met him, and he doesnt want our kid in that situation.. I feel like I turned out fine, because of the loving parents i had that tried their hardest.. and thank you searra for all that amazing information! I'll definitely look into it :) an abortion is not something I want.. always been against it.

[spretty]

Thank you all, I've tried talking to him multiple times, every time he says he's willing to deal with me, just.not a child. He thinks the baby will tear us apart before anything else. His biggest problem is that I grew up in a broken home, never had stability until.I met him, and he doesnt want our kid in that situation.. I feel like I turned out fine, because of the loving parents i had that tried their hardest.. and thank you searra for all that amazing information! I'll definitely look into it :) an abortion is not something I want.. always been against it.

[JazzJarv]

Don't EVER let people force you to do what you don't want to do, especially if it concerns the life of your unborn child!
The fact that this pregnancy should be a blessing says it all to me! If you're prepared to raise this child and face all of the problems then you do that! You will always have support, even if it seems now that you won't. There are always people in the same position as you and you should never feel like you have to go through anything alone.
There are plenty of aiding charities and companies that help people in your situation. Before making any decisions look at what options you could have for housing and money if you declared yourself homeless... which you would be if you kept the baby.
If you decide an abortion then that's your choice but make sure it IS your choice and noone else's :) Good luck!

[searra]

Your boyfriend should in no way be pushing u into an abortion google what they do to the poor babies. And many moms become serverly depressed after cuz they have to live with that for the rest of there life wondering what it would have looked like is it a boy or girl. Please dont do it! If they kick u out its not the end of the earth. Theres a program u can get on thats called wic witch will give u free formula for a year and baby food. If your homeless call a womens shelter and they will get u into housing witch u will only pay like 25 dollars to nothing a month as well as educational programs and free childcare. as soon as u see your precious baby baby you will be willing to do it 10 times over. Please check into some anti abortion clinics in your area they will give u a free pregnancy test sonyogram clothes diapers and help u with everything im talking to u about. Sorry for the rant but when I hear abortion it gives me a heavy heart. Please get all the info im telling u about. You can be strong anough to do this this would be your baby and her smiling face will thank you one day. God bless!

[simran143]

try to first make him understand the emotions you feel for the situation....if tht doesnt work out then tok to his mom if you can manage to....m sure she can help you out....n plss dun ruin this just because he asks for an abortion because he has view point framed for you two only.....if you are pretty sure about the future with him then .....try harder to make him unserstand wt you feel ...n tell n explain your need is more of emotional than of physical or phcological....:)