unsupportive fiance:(

[Xtina85]

This is more for me to vent but I was also wondering if anyone else is having this problem. Before I found out I was pregnant I was a pretty heavy drinker and smoker (drinking about 3 nights a wk and smoking a pack a day) I've completely quit drinking and am down to 2 cigs or less a day. However my fiance is still smoking, sometimes even in the house when I ask him not to, and drinks every night. I've asked him to cut back on both for the support and because we can't afford it. In almost a month nothing has changed and when I bring it up it ends in a fight and him even more drunk then if I don't say anything. Please help!

[kimmery]

i'd be worried. someone who is unable to stop drinking and yet promises to do so has a problem, IMO. the bigger issue is, does he truly does want to stop but is unable to do so? i would advise you to keep a close eye on this as it is not good for a baby/child to be around. i'd recommend counselling at the very least. my ex was a (mostly) functioning alcoholic (in that he could hold down a job) and it sounds very familiar.

good luck, hun.

[Morrisfamily2012]

Tutilin I like your post. I left for 2 days and went to my moms. Didn't respond to phone calls or text. You gotta make a point sometimes.

[tutilin]

Where mask. Open the doors turn on the fan put on a jacket.oh yea open the windows. tell him its okay. Eventually he will go outside. Keep everything open and on well after smoke is gone. Mske it feel like outside inside. If it dont work go to ur moms house for a few days. Dont answer fone. U have to protect ur baby when he wont....forever... You are stewards over that child ur postion from God.

[Xtina85]

Thanks ashliegh92009. I'll definitely try that next time

[Xtina85]

He's 32...7 years older than me! I think he should be mature enough to make the effort:/ seems like all there is to do is not to let it get to me:(

[Ashleigh92009]

Lovemykids86- that was the best haha minus 6 so true. :)

My fiance still smokes to which I think is in no way helping me. I quit comepletly from a,pack a day when I found out it was actually way easy cause the smell made me throw up now i'm past that but lately i'm starting to crave again. I think honestly if you go about it in a way not sounding aggitated he might not get so defensive. Try telling him how you feel like hunny I feel horrible that you keep smoking inside and i'm having trouble stopping for OUR baby. See what happens you may not feel like your attacking him but maybe he does. Men sometimes are stupid,lol good,luck darling

[LovemyKids86]

My boyfriend was like that with my first and it never changed throughout my whole pregnancy…he would consistently pick fights with me so he could have an excuse to go out and get drunk and do whatever he wanted to do. He's grown up a little, still drinks once or twice a week. Eventually he will grow out of it.

How old is your fiancee?

My best guy friend has told me that guys mature 6 years slower than females, even after babies are born. So take his age and minus 6


Good luck and hope things work out for the better

[Haylin2012]

I have a similiar situation... my other half still smokes in the house and has a few drinks every night. he tells me he'll take it outside but has broken that promise over 50000 times... and he has said he will quit every month but to no avail. i gave up... i just tell him if he wants to stay around long enough to be there for his kid he better shape up or ship out! Lol... men, seriously.

[alaysha]

Honestly it sounds like he needs to grow up. If I was you I'd leave to show him that you are serious and that if he can't straighten up and be supportive that you and the baby wont be around.