can we use this name

[neasyc]

my dh and i had a name picked for a boy for the last 5 years after his late brother my dh even asked his mum and dad permission to use it  we had two dd in that time we are now pregnant with a boy but his younger brother and his girlfriend had a ds 10 weeks ago and named him a shortend  version of this name they knew we were going to pick it and my husband is the eldest boy in his family it not that we are cross they have every right to call their son it but we just think that it would be difficult with 2 boy with the same name and surname so close in age in the same close family what do you think we should do

[neasyc]

thanks it just the kids will see each other all the time and they are only5 months apart i realy cant think of another name right now never had to think of a boy name before everyone just always thought we would name our first boy robert

[mommyagain123]

I'd stick with the name if it means that much.  If you are worried about the kiddos getting confused when called at family gatherings consider using it as a middle name or calling the child a nick name. Or you can use it as a first name and call your son by his middle name.  It's totally up to you and your husband.  I don't think it's a huge deal to have 2 children with the same name in the extended family though.

[Ashelen]

Yeah I didn't realize that the names would be so different....My dad's name is Robert but everyone calls him Bob or Bobby and I always get taken aback when someone calls him Robert...LOL it's like I forgot that that's really his name. There are like 5 versions of Robert in our Family...we have 2 Roberts (one called Bob, one called Bobby) one Robert actually Called Robert..a Rob, and  Robbie....but then..there are a LOT of people in my mom and dad's families so names were eventually bound to be repeated, LOL. I think you're fine with either way...Robert and Bobby are definitely different enough, although some people MAY call Robert Bob or Bobby but that won't really matter..and if you use it as a middle name it works too. Either way! :)

[neasyc]

thanks everyone i might just stick with Robert but as my bil and his girlfrind what the think first

[smjmekg]

Just wanted to add my two cents. Robert and Bobby are two different names, my brother's friend's name is Bobby, it's not short for anything or a nick name. Robert can be shortened, as already posted as Robby, or Rob. Robby and Bobby are similar, but Rob is far from Bobby. So I think you should stick with your original plan and name him Robert. I don't think the two boys will think their names are similar, as the get older and are able to understand where their names came from I think they may feel honored to be named after your BIL. I don't think they'll have a problem with it. I think it's a wonderful idea to be memorializing your BIL by naming your son after him. My son's middle name is Kent after my husband's grandfather and I'm 7 weeks pregnant with a baby whose middle name will either be Coyann for a girl or Coyant for a boy after both by grandfathers (Coy and Anthony were their names).

[cocacolapanda]

I say stick with it.  Also, make sure that your childs middle name does not start with the same letter, then it should be just fine.

[neasyc]

yeah thanks i think they picked bobby because they knew we were going to pick robert so it would be different because it was no secret we would going to pick robert if was even kind of expected as it has long been a family name and my husband is the oldest boy in his family and so far the only one married

[feather2e]

I think Robert and bobby sound very different so I dont see there being a problem.

[neasyc]

yeah we will have to call him something lol but not sure something would make a good name lol

[ammanda]

Hmm How bout Aiden Robert, or Shaun Robert?  Think of more, you'll get there

[neasyc]

yeah i like Arden and so did my dh till i sugested we uesd the 3 names Arden Robert shaun but now he does does not like it lol men

[ammanda]

Use Robert as a middle name.. its a good name and will go with just about anything.  what are some other boy names you like.. try writing them out with robert as the middle name..

[mom2ariana]

i understand...you will soon, and no problem! :)

[neasyc]

thanks we have a lot to think about im nearly 27 weeks and hate him not having a name

[mom2ariana]

well if you do decide to use robert, my personal opinion is that they are so very different sounding to me..i think its one of those nicknames that is weird..like how exactly bobby comes from robert im not sure so if you ask me i think it would still be okay to use.
if would be different if your dh's brother named his son nick and you wanted to name yours nicholas..idk but robert and bobby to me are different.

[neasyc]

yeh we were alway going to keep it robert as it a family name and dh's uncle is called robby we were alway going to call him Robert shaun after my granda as well but now im thinking Arden Robert shaun but dh is not sure

[mom2ariana]

well from my perspective robert and bobby are pretty different. i know bob is short for robert...but maybe if you didn't shorten your sons name and always called him robert. or robby? either way i think the names are different enough that it shouldn't matter.

[neasyc]

my late bil was called Robert (bob) we were going to call our son Robert my bil called his son Bobby the kids see will se each other at least once a week
my other problem is my mil still thinks we are going to use the name dont know how to tell her we might not every one thinks we are but im worried it might be a little weired

[mom2ariana]

i agree..i voted on find another name because while its great to remember someone lost, he is going to be remembered with your dh's nephew... you also don't want your son to feel like he's sharing his name with someone close to him. will they play together a lot? i think this is the biggest issue...because i am naming my daughter ariana, and my cousin's name is arianna (i've always loved the name and so does DH, we weren't going to use it but kept coming back to it as our favorite over and over so since i have only actually met my cousin a couple of times i decided they probably wouldn't know each other hardly at all so it would be okay...& i asked my aunt if she minded)...i think it depends on how well your son and your husband's nephew will know each other and how far apart they live.

[ammanda]

I agree with with Ashleen, try using it for a middle name. I gave my son the first name of my fiancees first sons middle name that past away at birth. i was worried his ex would be mad or he wouldnt go for it or his family would be offended, but turns out everyone loves it even his ex girlfriend and hubby.. so i was very happy to get to name my son after his big brother cause even though hes not my son, hes still my fiancees son and i love my fiancee so His first born will always be apat of our family and my son will know about his big brother.. all you can do is talk to the family about everything, and I too would like to know the name if you dont mind

[Ashelen]

Well...I don't know this is a tough one. The point of using the name is to memorialize a departed love one, right? If one child already bears the name, then the memorializing has already been done...and there's no reason you can't use the longer name, but I think that the gift has already been made and there's no real reason to repeat it. Maybe use that name as a middle name, so you can add to the memorialization without being repetitive? I don't know, that's tough :(. May I ask what the first name is?