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[doulamommy]

Is anyone else really sick of the word can't? I'm not saying like what you can and can't do pregnant: I'm talking labor and after you have the baby. Do you know how many times I was told that I wouldn't be able to have a natural birth? I planned for it for months but usually got some variant of "Oh you want to go natural. How cute. Well, when you can't, aren't you glad there are epidurals?" Women have given birth naturally for thousands of years. What makes our generation not be able to in the eyes of even medical professionals?
It's the same thing with breastfeeding. How many women say going into it: "I CAN DO THIS! " ? Not very many. Missy people (myself included before I had my first child) go into it saying, "I'm going to try, but if I can't... boy I'm sure glad formula is a safe alternative."
I'm tired of can't! Does anyone else have things they were told they CAN'T do that you've done in spite of everyone saying can't?
Please share below n

[doulamommy]

The thing is... until you're in labor you dint know what you personally can and can't do, but if you go into the delivery room with CAN'T ringing in your mind, then you probably can't. The most important thing you can do to prepare for delivery is to learn to say can. You can be a total wimp with no pain tolerance and still deliver naturally if you and your partner and your doctor all believe you CAN. You can have a high pain tolerance and end up with an epidural if there is any CAN'T in your room. My biggest struggle was getting myself and my hubby to believe in can.

[lilnbuttonsmom]

I love this post! lol my bfs sister is having her 3rd kid and her doctor told her she can't try for a vbac and that she probably won't be able to breastfeed bc she didn't do it with the other 2!

[calico236]

YES.

My doctors have told me my whole life I'd never have a natural birth. Never get pregnant. Never be able to have a normal pregnancy. Except for my GP. Mostly because he knows how stubborn I am.

I plan 100% no exceptions on having a natural birth.
No meds, nothing.  As long as my life or baby's life are not in serious danger, that's how I want it.

And I also plan on exclusively breastfeeding. I understand it can be hard. But I've been doing a LOT of reading about ways to make it easier for you and baby and to not give up.

Too many people these days are so fast to quit.

And I plan on cloth diapering too! I have no idea what I'm doing!  No one in my family has ever used cloth diapers but I am determined.  

Too many excuses now a days.

[shinieshoes]

I agree doulamomma! Who knows what's going to be wrong with us 20 years from now! All, this medicine people are being given for every little thing.  I'm all for medicine when necessary but holy cow . It's all about money now unfortunately!

[householder19]

I hate it to! The other day one of my cousins made a comment that if she couldn't go natural then I'm not going to be able to! I was like Wtf that's you not me! Haha. She also said she took it like a champ! Lol if she was taking it like a champ then why did she need the meds!?!? Lol..  anyways yea I hate when people say things like that.  I try to just laugh about it though, its better to laugh about it then get mad :))

[mamaMcAnulty]

Im thankful kaiser is a big believer on breastfeeding and they try to push it on to every new mom.. I want to breastfeed as well tho but a nurse warned me that they are big on pushing breastfeeding. I am planning on no pain meds till pain is unbearable.. I have a high pain tolerance tattoos piercings etc buttttt ive never delivered so that can be totally different lol