circumsicion

[mommytobe97]

I'm not really sure where to put this, but wanted to get any help on this situation. My husband is uncircumcised and doesn't like it at all. We had both pretty much agreed that if we have a son he will be circumcised. Though I wonder about later on when our son is growing up and wonders/questions why he looks different than daddy, what do you tell him?? I'm not sure how to handle that conversation. Any ideas/suggestions?? thanks!

[mom2ariana]

i think its a good idea to get it done... i think a lot of men / boys wish that their parents had done it. the subject might not ever come up but if it does i think elixis had the best suggestion. :)

[mommytobe97]

Yea, my husband sure would have liked it if his parents had done it. He is annoyed with it, and has thought about getting it done, but the pain that it would cause now is just so much and he doesn't really take pain well. lol.

[ashleighnb]

This is a personal choice. I think that its an unnecessary procedure to put the baby through, I would rather not do it and let the child make that decision later in life. Like someone else said you can take skin away but you cant put it back. I think that cleanliness is not a good reason to do it, as if you teach your child proper hygiene there should not be an issue. I know that more often people are not getting it done so in the future when your child goes to school and see the other boys in the locker room not only will he be different from daddy but he will be different from his friends. Also they say its too painful to have it done later in life but wouldn't you think that is the same pain that little baby is feeling. I would think as an adult pain would be better controlled than as a baby and they can't say how much pain they are in to remedy it.

[Clysta]

I also think it's a personal choice. (Which is why I pray I never have boys because my fiance and I have different opinions) I myself think it's completely unnecessary. Like the above poster said, cleanliness isn't an issue with proper hygiene. I've been with people who've never been circumcised and they've never had issues with it, nor will ever bother to have it done. It can honestly go either way. There can be problems if you have it done, and there can be problems if you don't. The way I think about it is, men have gone hundreds of years without this being done, and been perfectly fine. If it wasn't meant to be on the body, it wouldn't be there.  

[ammanda]

First of all, all i can say is gross!!! I just had a son 3 weeks ago and chose to get him circumsised.  Dont take this the wrong way cause its just my opinion ladies. but I think its gross to be uncircumsised. ive never met anyone thats not. prolly cause its not common around here.  but i have seen one on the internet and was disgusted. i could never be with anyone who wasnt. and i know alot of girls who feel that way around here. and i wouldnt want my son to be made fun of later on in life.  and i totaly disagree about the pain thing. my son cried for like 2 mintues and was over it. and it healed in 3 days.. wasnt a problem at all.  Even the paper they give you at my hospital about it, adivses you to do it, cause of hygenie and you can be as careful as heck and still have hygene problems. and it causes utis and can even cause rectum cancer and cervical cancer in woman if they sleep with someone uncircumsized.. i say you are def. making the right choice if you are to have a boy.  but next time i wouldnt suggest posting it on here, cause you'll get so many different answers and opinions.  Good luck

[mommytobe97]

Well I didn't ask if you thought circumcision was right or not, but thanks for the opinions. My husband and I have already made our choice, and you can make yours. I understand that men can be uncircumcised, like my husband, but he also hates it. The majority of boys are circumcised, as it is cleaner and I don't think it's going to change where a bunch of boys in the future will not be. It's easier to get it over with as a baby and we want to do this for our son. I can see more benefits of having it done then anything bad about it. People say it's been there for a long time, so if it wasn't meant to be there, then it wouldn't. But we also have an appendix and other organs that are useless in our body. That's not a reason to not have circumcision.  Just my thoughts on it..

I like the way you worded it Elixis, I think I'd say something to that effect! :)