Sorry for this being long but I kinda need advice

[Kimberlyy_Danielle]

I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant and my boyfriends family has done nothing but stress me out... I've tried so hard to be nice to them for the past 3 years, but during my pregnancy they have just been rude and talk about me behind my back, especially his mother..

I wanted to plan 2 separate baby showers, and my boyfriends mother had nothing planned, she didn't even have anywhere to have the shower. So with me having a good heart I told her don't worry about it, we can just have one shower and both grandmothers can plan together... My bfs mother has done absolutely nothing, I asked her to get me addresses for her side of the family, I waited TWO WEEKS & she still didn't get them, so I went and got them myself. My mother has asked her if she can do the favors and she said "oh no I couldn't possibly do that" we asked her to bring food if she wants, she's making a pasta salad and bringing waters with her Walmart discount, let's see if that happens. She hasn't chipped in or called my mother once to ask if she needed anything. So she had the nerve to call my boyfriend and say well why wasn't my name on the invites too? UHM MAYBE BECAUSE YOU DIDNT PLAN OR HELP IN ANYWAY! My dad loses his job the day of my shower so my mom has been stressing and asked me to get a quick estimated head count from his side of the family even though the rsvp date is July 25th, I explained to everyone why I asked early and they were nice about it. I post my registry on my fb because nobody from his side or mine has bought from it and my cousin wrote a comment about people should start buying stuff and his aunt who talked with my bfs mom decided to write a smart *** remark saying she can read and maybe nobody has rsvpd because it's the 25th to rsvp... & all I said was, in pretty sure we had a conversation about why I asked everyone early, everyone from your side told me who was and was not coming, so if the assuming could stop that'd be great. & it turned into a whole huge argument. I don't even want them at the shower anymore. They all just ganged up on me on Facebook for them assuming **** was about them like they always do... I'm just done at this point....

[Kimberlyy_Danielle]

It seems like everyone now a days has bfs or husbands with crazy mothers ... She expected to be in the delivery room as well and I told her straight out no. She's too much of a stressful person and I want my daughter being brought into a relaxed and stress free environment. I get 3 bracelets to give to people to be in the delivery room or to visit after the baby is born and they're going to my mom my sister and my boyfriend. Mind you my boyfriends mother already has 2 grand kids and this is my mothers first, so yes I am going to let my mom do what she pleases, it's my moms first grand baby and my family's first grand baby. She doesn't seem to grasp that concept too well, she likes to be the center of attention.

But thank you for the advice ladies, I'm trying my best to stay as stress free as possible for my little girl, so far in doing good

[Emmers18]

I recently went through something similar. My bf is a total liar, so I never know what he's told people. His mother blocked my number and his whole family pretty much shunned me. He told her I broke into her house, and on my child's life I would never do something like that. He broke into her house, came home with stuff and tried to sell it. I kept telling him how wrong it was, that was his mother, etc. So she stopped talking to him, I took her things to her and apologized for his actions. But then it all got turned around on me.

[chelfylou]

Trust me, I understand the stress that your boyfriends mother gives you as its the same for me. Except with mine, my mum is the only one helping me buy things for my son as I'm 18 and in a low paid job but doing a damn good job so far! And she's expecting to be the one at the birth and my mum not to be there :/ all I can say girl is don't let them get to you as you have a precious life inside you which is worth more than any of their cruel words! Stressing out will stress bub out, s ignore them and concerntrate on the people who matter in life c:

[Alquidio]

I'm sorry this is happening to you just try not to think about it if they are coming they will if not who cares they haven't been there for you and won't so have a great baby shower with the ones who do (you're family) all you need :)