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dont know what to do, 20 years old at university, muslim family
i dont know what to do, im not looking for any answers, i know ultimately that its something me and the potential daddy need to decide, but im so anxious and worried. i spoke to my mum today, and my sister, and the fella, all are under the impression that continuing with the pregnancy would be a silly idea... but it's there now and it's apparently the size of a poppy seed, heart beat and everything. any advice?
Oh hun, I am so sorry your going through this! You are in my thoughts and prayers.... We are all here if you need to vent or talk! (((HUGS)))
Some m/c's take some time to happen.(week or 2) I am sorry your going through this, and I am sorry about the doctor who treated you!
I hope all is well, and you can get through this! Just hang in there!
I hope all is well, and you can get through this! Just hang in there!
the pains started on friday nite at work, then i noticed a tiny bit of blood... next to come was the phonecall to nhs direct to make sure everything was alright, it appears that i had made my decision, and was willing my baby to keep fighting inside of me.
only a tiny trickle of blood on friday nite, then sunday evening, 7.30 excrutiating pain and a hell of a lot of blood.
was meant to go for the early scan on monday morning, but was up all nite in agony. monday evening managed to go to work, still bleeding heavily. arrived at A and E at 11.30pm. took 3 hours to be seen by a doctor, they tried to admit me to the ward warning me that it could be an ectopic pregnancy. i wanted badly to come home, so she gave me my latest blood test result. my HCG levels have DROPPED substantially. from 1000...to just 30. its not a viable pregnancy, and i was told to expect to miscarry completely by next week. i thought MC's happened within a few hours and that was it.
the cruelty of the doctor i saw was unreal. after asking me whether i was married, lived with my boyfriend, was religious and was studying, he saw me cry, and told me "God was helping me, by taking my baby".
dont know what else to say really, am absolutely gutted, and terrified for when its going to actually happen.
thanks for reading...
over n out
x
only a tiny trickle of blood on friday nite, then sunday evening, 7.30 excrutiating pain and a hell of a lot of blood.
was meant to go for the early scan on monday morning, but was up all nite in agony. monday evening managed to go to work, still bleeding heavily. arrived at A and E at 11.30pm. took 3 hours to be seen by a doctor, they tried to admit me to the ward warning me that it could be an ectopic pregnancy. i wanted badly to come home, so she gave me my latest blood test result. my HCG levels have DROPPED substantially. from 1000...to just 30. its not a viable pregnancy, and i was told to expect to miscarry completely by next week. i thought MC's happened within a few hours and that was it.
the cruelty of the doctor i saw was unreal. after asking me whether i was married, lived with my boyfriend, was religious and was studying, he saw me cry, and told me "God was helping me, by taking my baby".
dont know what else to say really, am absolutely gutted, and terrified for when its going to actually happen.
thanks for reading...
over n out
x
I hope I have not offended anyone. I am not deeply religious myself and I am sure if I was in your shoes I would have been faced with the same decisions.
Hello, thought I would say something on behalf of a Muslims point of view. I am a 25 year old Muslim woman from South Africa. My younger sister fell pregnant at 21 years old. My mom was very hurt and my dad even more hurt. She and her hubby (then boyfriend) considered abortion because he already had a son. My sister and her boyfriend were pushed into marriage and within in a week they were married. They have had their ups and downs but are still together and have a beautiful son Zakariya. We love him to bits and my parents love him to bits too.
My sister was a third year Finance student and left her studies to have her baby, she will resume her studies next year (Insha-Allah [If God wills]}. Like I said before my sister also considered abortion but I talked her out of it. My parents eventually changed their tune. I would like to add that my sister was also suffering from depression to make matters worse and has a hearing disability with which she has to deal with. She has overcome these problems and just proves that babies are a blessing.
When my parents held my nephew in their arms, they melted and all that my sister had done was forgotten!
Being a Muslim we know that termination can only take place in the very early stages if its a matter of life and death. here is a paragraph taken from an Islamic site called Raza... It is not meant to scare you or anything like that and please don't think I am preaching. Before you read this, I would like to echo what some of the ladies have said before, your mom might be a bit jealous that she is trying so hard to have a baby and here you are with baby already. I have also been trying and have had no luck, its difficult for me to watch my younger sister with her baby but I know, its Allah's will. He will bless us soon enough. Good luck with your choice and we are here for you all the way. Remember your decision which ever you make will guide you to your future.
24. Is abortion allowed in Islam?
By definition, abortion is the termination of pregnancy. It may be practised in Islam when it has been ascertained by a pious Muslim doctor that there is a definite fear of the mother's life being in jeopardy as a result of the pregnancy. Islam upholds the sanctity of life and is opposed to abortion. There are numerous verses in the Holy Quran, which testify to this. For example, "And kill not your children for fear of want (poverty): it is We Who shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you." (17:31) and "Do not take another human being's life - (the life) which Allah has willed to be sacred - otherwise than in (the pursuit of) justice." (17:33) From the general teachings of the Holy Quran and the Sunnah, it is clearly established that life, in whatever form, is to be preserved and not destroyed, except for a valid cause or reason. Muslims should place their faith and trust in Almighty Allah and His beloved Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) and should not resort to the cruel practise of abortion on demand.
My sister was a third year Finance student and left her studies to have her baby, she will resume her studies next year (Insha-Allah [If God wills]}. Like I said before my sister also considered abortion but I talked her out of it. My parents eventually changed their tune. I would like to add that my sister was also suffering from depression to make matters worse and has a hearing disability with which she has to deal with. She has overcome these problems and just proves that babies are a blessing.
When my parents held my nephew in their arms, they melted and all that my sister had done was forgotten!
Being a Muslim we know that termination can only take place in the very early stages if its a matter of life and death. here is a paragraph taken from an Islamic site called Raza... It is not meant to scare you or anything like that and please don't think I am preaching. Before you read this, I would like to echo what some of the ladies have said before, your mom might be a bit jealous that she is trying so hard to have a baby and here you are with baby already. I have also been trying and have had no luck, its difficult for me to watch my younger sister with her baby but I know, its Allah's will. He will bless us soon enough. Good luck with your choice and we are here for you all the way. Remember your decision which ever you make will guide you to your future.
24. Is abortion allowed in Islam?
By definition, abortion is the termination of pregnancy. It may be practised in Islam when it has been ascertained by a pious Muslim doctor that there is a definite fear of the mother's life being in jeopardy as a result of the pregnancy. Islam upholds the sanctity of life and is opposed to abortion. There are numerous verses in the Holy Quran, which testify to this. For example, "And kill not your children for fear of want (poverty): it is We Who shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you." (17:31) and "Do not take another human being's life - (the life) which Allah has willed to be sacred - otherwise than in (the pursuit of) justice." (17:33) From the general teachings of the Holy Quran and the Sunnah, it is clearly established that life, in whatever form, is to be preserved and not destroyed, except for a valid cause or reason. Muslims should place their faith and trust in Almighty Allah and His beloved Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) and should not resort to the cruel practise of abortion on demand.
I'm sorry for you going thru this. I think in the end it's your choice, however personally I Do NOT believe in abortion unless the mothers life is in danger or the baby is already dead.
And just remember if you decide to keep the baby, if you have to you can always have an open adoption where you get to meet and know the adoptive family.
All men are scared at first, but it passes, especially when they feel that first kick.
And just remember if you decide to keep the baby, if you have to you can always have an open adoption where you get to meet and know the adoptive family.
All men are scared at first, but it passes, especially when they feel that first kick.
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