dont know what to do, 20 years old at university, muslim family

[dontknowwhattodo2008]

i dont know what to do, im not looking for any answers, i know ultimately that its something me and the potential daddy need to decide, but im so anxious and worried. i spoke to my mum today, and my sister, and the fella, all are under the impression that continuing with the pregnancy would be a silly idea... but it's there now and it's apparently the size of a poppy seed, heart beat and everything. any advice?

[sweetangel7]

Ashie is right...it seems single moms get a lot of benefits...free college, free food, free child care, free insurance, free stuff for baby (car seats, diapers, formula etc.)  No offense anyone...just my observation!  Of course, I live in MA and we give benefits out like candy lol  I wouldn't be afraid of finishing my degree if I were you...you will have soooooo many resources that others don't have!  I had to pay for all of the above and I have done just fine lol

[justice6920]

Oh hun, Im sorry your going through this..... BUT ashiepooh has some GREAT advice.... there are grants and scholarships all tons of other options.... I know this seems like probably the scariest thing that you have ever been through but just know that things happen for a reason and have a way of working themselves out.... Plenty of women have done school and being a  first time mom at the same time.... Just review your options and let the decision you make be YOURS and not from the pressure of your family..... Good Luck

[pinkbelle]

I was a freshman in college when i got pregnant with my daughter ans just like alaysha said it can be done!!!  Its your body you decide what YOu want to do.... don't let anyone pressure you into anything .. afterall you are the one who is gonna have to live with your decision so make sure you think hard a nd long about it and decide what it RIGHT for you

[UmYusra]

hi, i'm sooo sorry you r going through this!!! but if this is what u want to do you can go through it and become even much more stronger person.
i was 2nd year university when i become preg with my little girl now almost 3 years, i managed to finish the 1st semester of the 2nd year and took a break for a year. i went back to uni when my girl was 6 months to complete my degree and graduated last month, it just feels like having the best of the both worlds!!!!. as it is  been already mentioned abortion is  an option to be regretted rest of ones life!!!! and there most be lots of benefits and financial  help available to alone mothers, what ever your decision might be good luck    

[jdamico]

well i  also got pregnant with my daughter at  19  and i was in  my frist  year of very intense medical  technolgy program  i was going through the  same thoughts u were going  through. I  decided to  keep her and never looked back  i finished  top in my class and graduated in  2004 for  my dual degree . So it can be  done. I would def  read up on  adoption  if u dont think keepin the baby is and  option. there  are plenty  of programs  out there to help  single  mothers who want to continue  their education. it is  ur choice don't let  any one tell  u  what is right  for  u  good luck

[sarah3333]

As everyone said it really your decision. But personally I don’t think abortion is a good ideal.
I never I had an abortion, but after I got married I been trying to get pregnant, I try everything I could It was impossible. God finally made a miracle for me three months ago, I am  now 14 weeks pregnant .  A baby is really a gift from God, if you keep it God will make way for you and that baby.  If not why not think of Adoption, they is so many people who want a kid this forum page. Any way which ever decision you make I wish you look.