dont know what to do, 20 years old at university, muslim family

[dontknowwhattodo2008]

i dont know what to do, im not looking for any answers, i know ultimately that its something me and the potential daddy need to decide, but im so anxious and worried. i spoke to my mum today, and my sister, and the fella, all are under the impression that continuing with the pregnancy would be a silly idea... but it's there now and it's apparently the size of a poppy seed, heart beat and everything. any advice?

[justice6920]

Oh hun, Im sorry your going through this..... BUT ashiepooh has some GREAT advice.... there are grants and scholarships all tons of other options.... I know this seems like probably the scariest thing that you have ever been through but just know that things happen for a reason and have a way of working themselves out.... Plenty of women have done school and being a  first time mom at the same time.... Just review your options and let the decision you make be YOURS and not from the pressure of your family..... Good Luck

[sweetangel7]

Ashie is right...it seems single moms get a lot of benefits...free college, free food, free child care, free insurance, free stuff for baby (car seats, diapers, formula etc.)  No offense anyone...just my observation!  Of course, I live in MA and we give benefits out like candy lol  I wouldn't be afraid of finishing my degree if I were you...you will have soooooo many resources that others don't have!  I had to pay for all of the above and I have done just fine lol

[alaysha]

I was in my first year of college and I dropped out to have my baby. Went back to school in August of this year and have been supported by grants and scholarships. I dont have a job (although I would like to get something part-time) but I am given about 7000 a semester to help me pay my bills, rent, clothing, and whatever. I also have medicaid insurance which covers everything that I need to get done, wic to help with formula, and food stamps. No matter what happens you do have options.

[ashiepooh]

There are plenty of grants and scholarships you can get to send a baby to daycare and pay for school.  The state offers medical assistance, especially if your a student!  So there is options!  

I know plenty of ladies who had left for two quarters and went back after the baby was born and in daycare.  They went on to get degree's.  I know there are plenty of ladies on here doing the same thing as well!  =)  

I would get all the information about all your choices, and go from there.  The worst thing your parents can do to you is tell you they wont pay for anything, they can't force an abortion on you!Especially if it's not what you want!  =)  Maybe talk to the finacial aid office or coucelors at school, to see what all your options for grants and scholarships are!  I know the universities in my state offer a daycare program with a discount for mothers who continue their education.  THey also offer online classes for when in the third trimester. and right after baby is born!

[dontknowwhattodo2008]

iv just been told i dont have a choice...i know id lose all security i have, im not financially stable. iv told the dad and my mum that i wudnt carry it through, but pregnancys a weird time, all you can seem to do is think about it....my heads well and truly mashed, i just wish it hadn't have happened in the first place, but i cant turn back time can i? im so scared of losing out on my degree, im only a first year student...

thanks for the replies btw xxx

[sweetangel7]

I agree with the other ladies...it is your choice...be sure it is what YOU want to do regardless of what anyone else thinks!