I don't think you're unreasonable but some guys just won't see your point of view. If you think about if you we're a guy, no matter how badly you want that baby and love it already, ultrasounds and check ups can be boring.
Not to insult you... But babies generally aren't on the list of interests guys have. As long as he's open to coming to things that have to so with his baby, I don't see a problem. I'm sure it hurts your feelings… But he may see it like he already went to some and so he thinks he's being there and being as supportive as he should be. I definitely think his point of view will change once the baby is here.
My man, who is not the father, goes to every appt he can and is super involved with the pregnancy. He claims the girls as his. Which they are when it comes down to it. He gets upset with me if I have an appt that he can't make it to. He asks me to make them for his days off or later so he can make them, even if it is just to talk to the dr.
My hubby goes to all my appointments unless we have one that is scheduled while he is working and we can't get in another time. Except my physical therapy appts. He doesn't always go to though and he doesn't really want to so I don't push the issue. All the reg dr appt he wants to come to though.
My boyfriend has gone to every appointment. Starting with going to my drs to get the pregnancy test done to find out the positive or negative. Lol
Even if we are arguing or whatever, he still jumps in the car come doctor time..
I am 26+3
My hubby was at our 1st appointment (pelvic exam & transvaginal ultrasound) then he was at our gender ultrasound, and he will be going to our 35 week 3d ultrasound. I want him to be at every one, but he has to work bc he's gotta support us and make money for the baby :)
My hubby doesn't even come back - often sits in the waiting room :) lol I prefer it that way