eating problems..

Question

So, I know this is a touchy subject, so please no judgmental comments. I have always been very self conscious about my bodyand struggled with anorexia for years. It got really bad but I was able to recover from it about 3 years ago. Well ever since I've been pregnant and gaining weight I never want to eat. I started getting stretch marks and I'm having a really hard time accepting it. I eat maybe once a day. I take my prenatals everyday though. I'm just so terrified of being "ugly" and I feel like it's becoming a big issue that I can't really control. I'm afraid to bring it up to my doctor because my husband has no idea about any of it. He works all day, so I just tell him I ate before he got home. And I'm not saying that I'm not grateful for my precious baby, he is the biggest blessing I could have ever asked for. And I'm so happy that God has trusted me enough to give me such a great blessing. I just don't want to harm him but I feel like it's out of my

nece062013 · Answer

My son is measuring big too so that makes me happy that he's growing but also makes me feel like a super fatty. My fiancé weighs a whopping 120lbs!! But he has a kidney issue that wont allow him to gain weight so i cant really hold that against him. He understands kinda what I'm dealing with because of all the research i made him do (no one can completely understand it till they've been through it) but he tries. I'll give him that much. Your hubby should support you and have your back 110% instead of just telling you its stupid.

mamamower · Answer

Yes! Nece, that us exactly how my husband is. He is really skinny and couldn't gain weight even if you paid him to. He has never had to worry about his body. If I gain 15 more pounds I'll weigh more than him. Anytime I try to talk to him he just gets cold and tells me it's stupid that I worry about it. It's not that I want my baby to go without, I just can't get myself to eat. My son is measuring big and has my whole pregnancy.

nece062013 · Answer

My fiancé is skin and bones, literally. And I'm 200+ lbs and when i look at him i just feel like freaking Jupiter!!! Ugh! He tells me all the time that i shouldn't care what people think, that I'm beautiful the way i am. But sometimes i feel like he says that just to shut me up.
When i first found out i was pregnant i lost 10lbs because of horrible all day sickness and i cried all the time because i was actually trying to eat and it did no good! So i kinda started giving up. But my fiancé pretty much told me to pull myself together and at least try or he was gonna send me to the nut ward because i would be putting myself and our child in danger.
Maybe try counseling or support groups for anorexia and bring your hubby along so that he can understand it better and realize that its an actually disease and you cant just wish it away like its nothing. I made my fiancé research it before i let him judge me.

mamamower · Answer

I've tried talking to him about it before. He just doesn't understand at all. He just tells me "it's stupid. You don't need to worry about it." Ugh, sorry I'm just upset.

nece062013 · Answer

I struggled with anorexia during my early teen years and still have problems with it. I have to force myself to eat most days because i want my baby healthy but its really hard because I'm getting more stretch marks and i cant see my toes anymore!! Ugh. My fiancé knows i struggle with it still so he helps me make smart decisions when eating and he wont take my excuse 'I'm just not hungry.' I didn't tell my Dr but i have an amazing support system at home. Besides, she honestly doesn't give two craps about me (in the process of finding a new doctor). But i would tell either your husband so he can help you or your doctor. He will probably be upset that you never told him but I'm sure he'll be glad to help in anyway possible. Good luck dear. I'm here if you ever need to talk :)

mamamower · Answer

I do eat really healthy, for the most part. I hardly ever eat out, and rarely eat junk food. I only drink water. But my husband goes with me to every doctor appointment so it's hard to talk about anything without him knowing. I'm afraid if he finds out that he is just going to think I'm a horrible mom.

nrl_1 · Answer

We understand but u got to eat honey cause those prenatals r for your health not baby .baby takes all the nutrients from your food not those vitamins. I hate getting big too it ***** I look at myself and want to cry if u try to just eat lots of veggies and fruits and no real junk food u can convince yourself that your eating healthy and u wont get fat. Your doc isn't allowed to talk to your hubby about anything u dont want shared so tell her this is hard for u but u would like help but under no circumstances is she to talk to your hubby about it she will understand and b glad u told her.we all wish u luck and we know how hard this battle can be we r all getting stretch marks and big bellies lol

psrivs · Answer

Malnourished .

psrivs · Answer

U have to be eating properly now n even after birth so that u can look after ur baby. If ur breastfeeding then baby will get flourished if u don't eat. U won't be ugly u will still be beautiful to ur partner .

Danni1415 · Answer

There is NOTHING UGLY BOUT BEING PREGNANT!! It's a beautiful thing!! Think of the stretch marks as tiger strips.. Except unlike tigers you earned by them by creating delivering and taking care of what you made!!

acline93 · Answer

I'm sorry. I've never experienced this and I don't really know what to say besides please don't be afraid to get help. This is the most critical time in life, just because you have another life that depends on you, and everything that you do ultimately reflects upon your child. Talk to your doctor hun.