father figure nicknames

[marajean21]

So my kids have different fathers and call the other's father "daddy(first name)" and their bio dad daddy. It's never created an issue before, the fathers think it's cute. Now I'm pregnant with the 2nd guy but he's rarely here for his already born son and I have a boyfriend that is a father figure to both my boys and assuming responsibility for the two unborn as well. Hos family has no idea he's not the biological father(his wishes, not mine) and I already know this is goinf ro cause issues later down the road. But I'd like to know if anyone has some good nicknames for their kids to call their dad/father figure besides the typical pops,dad, daddy, father etc. I want them growing up knowing the guy I'm with as one name I can begin using at birth. They're gna know who made them, but I don't want them to feel like they are missing out bc he's not around. They'll have my bf to rely on and for that, I want a special name. Idk if it makes sense or not. I just can't go here, wanna see daddy steve. And just dada or daddy wouldn't feel right to me either. I've tried Googling father/dad in different languages but I either can't pronounce them or don't think it'd fit every day use. I like baba(or bubba) but my current youngest calls me big bubba and I call him little bubba so it'd be kind of weird changing it. Help?!?!

[JaidennsMommi]

I didnt know my (stepdad) wasnt my real dad til i was 5, my older brother told me and i was just like oh okk but to me since i was little iv called him daddy...well at first i called him by his name then one day i was just like thats my daddy and it stuck..til this day im almost 21 and he is still called daddy! My older brothers (22-23) also call him "DADDY" lol its just normal to us and even tho we know who our real dads are he has been there for us always so to us he is our dad.....

[roses01123]

My bf's nephew calls him DD (cause he couldn't say his name but those are his initials).  I have a daughter with another guy but I always thought that if my bf (or any bf) got really serious or married I would want my girl to call him D.D. (for designated daddy).  When said by a young child or quickly without caring to annunciate it still sounds like daddy.  

[valerie89]

I also grew up thinking someone who wasn't my bio dad to be my dad until I was 13. I understood that he did the best for me and did everything he possibly could for me, he loved me as his own and only because of him I had a dad figure as my bio dad has never been on the scene. The decision is up to you and your bf and what you are both comfortable with. Good luck.

[Morrisfamily2012]

I don't see why not have the twins call your bf dad? He's the one raising them and has stuck by your side throughout the pregnancy. My "dad" isn't my bio dad and I didn't know until I was 12. But he loved/loves me and raised me as his own my whole life. A father is the one who raises the kid not the one who made the kid. But your feelings are your feelings and I do understand. I think maybe papa is cute and less tranditonal.

[marajean21]

Yes, unfortunately my boys have been through that and I took a break with relationships for a while..until I met my current bf. We've been together for a little over a year and a half and he moved in in feb. We've talked about marriage, as we both agree the only reason for dating is to find who you're going ro be with the rest of your life and if it looked like we weren't going to be together for the long haul, to just walk away instead of dragging it out. I had a slip up in Jan feeling I had no choice but to give in to my ex and wound up preg and didn't even know until my bf moved in. But he's stuck through it all. I'd usually have my boys call whoever by their first name but as they got a little older, they added on daddy to their brother's dad and I just left it. They've always treated these kids as their own(when they show up) so I never really pushed the matter on them that no, this is only brother's daddy, you just call him by his name. They do understand who is their bio dad though. Before I get real confusing..with the 2 unborn, I wanted something a little more special because of how he just jumped in and I don't see either of us walking away and partly because again, he hasn't even told his family(which I know is going to come out anyways) so I don't want them questioning why I refer to 'his' kids by his first name until he's comfortable enough tto tell them

[TxMamma]

I agree that the "dad" term needs to be left to the bio fathers.  How long have you and your boyfriend been together?  Are you planning to get married?  Maybe just have them call him by his name until y'all get married.  That way you know he's a permanent fixture in their lives.  I've not been in this situation so I'm just guessing at what I would probably do.  I'm not saying I'm right.  I just think it's really important that you know you and your bf are gonna be together for the long haul before you have them call this guys something other than his name b/c they don't understand break-ups when they are so small.  

[marajean21]

He said he doesn't really care, but I know he does so I'd like to surprise him with something. There's only 2 babies dads and a bf, but yes, very confusing. I don't want the bio father to start something out of anger bc his kids are calling my bf dad or trying to tell them that's not their dad and to stop calling him that when they're gna be too young to understand, so I was hoping for some compromise

[brit0585]

I dont know what to say. I mean if your boyfriend is the one that will be responsible for taking care of them ask him what he wants the kids to call him. That seems like the most fair thing to do but it sounds like its getting confusing with the different dads involved and even more confusing with your boyfriend in the picture who isnt the dad but willing to take care of them. Just because he isnt the biological father doesnt mean they cant call him dad if he is the one willing to raise them. But sounds like a discussion you need to have with him.

[marajean21]

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