In all honesty, guys are weird when it comes to this type of thing. I'm also a FTM and my daughters father has 2 boys (ages 4 and 6). When it came to picking things out like furniture and clothes or different baby items, he had that "been there done that" attitude. So, I left him out of it. I did what I had to do. Not long after I had decided to stop bringing things up and trying to include him, he immediately wanted to get involved. After all, she is his only and first daughter.
I would definitely let him know how you feel though. I did tell my daughters dad that it hurt my feelings and that he was stealing the joy from me (being that this is my first baby regardless if he's been through it before). Once I put it like that... "He was stealing my joy" he straightened up a little bit and started to let me actually enjoy being pregnant and wanted to rub my belly and come see the ultrasounds.
Just don't force his hand with anything. If he wants to be there and be happy and experience everything with you, he will be. If not, enjoy it yourself. Do you. Do what you gotta do. Feel your baby BY YOURSELF!! LOL... After all, pregnancy is a beautiful thing.
Hope this helps...
That definitely helps! I was just feeling lost and I didnt know what to do except be upset.. but that gave me encouragement to just be happy even if its only me! Thank you very much:)