fiance vents

[ICantWait2CU]

Oke so my fiance and i have been doing fairly well with me going into my hormonal stages but for the last few days he has been "falling asleep" in the living room in his chair. which isn't very comfy. Tonight we got into it and he said he is going in there to "think." Then he passed out. Is something really that bad to cause him to not want to be around me? What do i do?? Our fight art that big of a deal and we get over them easily so why would he not want to sleep in the same bed as me lately?

[ICantWait2CU]

Alright i will talk to him. Thanks ladies. :) Wish me luck.

[parkersmommy]

When you're pregnant especially right around where you are sleeping next to you is different lol. You probably toss and turn a lot more you may snore or have pregnancy gas lol you could be putting off a lot more heat or even breathe really like shallow and scary because your lungs are so cramped in there. I can't tell you how many mornings I wake up and my old man is laying there staring and tells me how scared he is sometimes because it seems like I'm not breathing right lol. Just discuss it with him but don't be on the offensive about it it really could just be nothing!

[Zombonnie]

My bf did the same thing at first I'm 10 weeks now and we did fight over him not sleeping with me I regretted it as soon as we talked because he did let me kno that it was just my sleeping that disturbed his sleeping I was tossing and turning and I was running really hot especially at night so he was waking up sweating as was I. he said every time he moved I would wake up and he felt bad since he knew I was pregnant and needed my sleep. just talk to him in the nicest way u can and leg him kno that u understand if he is doing it for those reasons

[FreshLove]

Sounds like instead of communicating with you he is just "shutting down." I agree that men need time to accept the change of becoming a soon-to-be parent, but it's always best if you guys are able to communicate openly. Ignoring a fight or walking away from it doesn't resolve anything, just causes it to stay there and boil up. Ask him nicely, not accusing like "You've been avoiding me and sleeping in the living room! Why?!?" because that will put his defense up. But ask him nicely if there is a reason why he's been sleeping in his chair, if it's because something you've done or if he is just stressed from the fight and doesn't want to deal with it right now. If it's something that you've done, such as flopping around all night than try to come up with a compromise. If it is just because he is avoiding the fight and thus the resolution to the problem, then explain to him that you aren't trying to pick a fight with him or pick on him, but these are issues important to your future/relationship and you want to get them resolved (even if it's a fight over him not helping with dishes or you being too emotional, etc.).

It's ok and healthy to fight in a relationship, it's often how things get resolved. But it's not healthy to leave a fight "open."


lol, sorry for such a long response.

[mikaleen]

Are you more restless at night?  Are you snoring more?  Sometimes our sleeping patterns change or we start snoring or do other things in our sleep that we don't realize.  Sometimes I sleep in the guest room so my husband can get more sleep, I've been waking him up all night.  Maybe it's something simple.  Is there any reason for you to think it's more?

[momabear86]

Men need just as much time to get it in there head there going to be a parent. Just explain to him its a scary time but its best to talk to each other

[ICantWait2CU]

Yea first baby and im 15wks.

[Jhsgirl]

How far along are you? Is this your first baby?