unsupportive dad..

[Cupcake2191]

Okay, so i recently (few hours) told my dad i was expecting & he started by telling me it was horrible timing, & in not so many words told me i should abort the pregnancy. I cried myself to sleep around midnight, just woke up & feel so sick. Im hoping he might change when he sees the baby, & yet im not sure if i can live with knowing he never wanted my child to see daylight. Has anyone experienced this kind of situation? What helped you get through?

[queenkay3]

He will come around I hope sorry to hear this... sometimes people think the wost before they accept.. goodluck to you...my father isnt involved in my life or my daughter so i can understand why it hurts you....i hope for your sake he will change his mind

[DelainaN]

I told my dad a few months ago and he hasn't talked to me since! It's ridiculous I'm 23 and married I did It what parents would call the "right way" it ***** but its not my babies fault so he can go cry about it and feel like a d bag later on down the road

[aussiebum555]

I am going through the same thing at the moment i am just 12weeks pregnant and since i told my dad he has not spoke to me im 21 n have my own apartment n the father of the baby lives with me n im daddy's lil girl to im hoping that one day he will come around As we were very close n did alot together but i have decided to give him time becoming a mother n i know im only 12 weeks but i know no father could turn his back after 21 years well i couldn't but it will be ok cuz I'll have mine n will be his loss if he still carry on being stubborn but you wi be ok you have your own family now :)

[aussiebum555]

I am going through the same thing at the moment i am just 12weeks pregnant and since i told my dad he has not spoke to me im 21 n have my own apartment n the father of the baby lives with me n im daddy's lil girl to im hoping that one day he will come around As we were very close n did alot together but i have decided to give him time becoming a mother n i know im only 12 weeks but i know no father could turn his back after 21 years well i couldn't but it will be ok cuz I'll have mine n will be his loss if he still carry on being stubborn but you wi be ok you have your own family now :)

[Babybump3]

Do not listen to your Dad,my (now mother in law)Tried to persuade my now Husband to make me have an abortion (my daughter is now 4years old) I ended up having a huge row with her when i found out and the next day i ended up in hospital with a possible miscarriage,luckily my little Girl was strong and is now 4years old.I still hate my mother in law for causeing such stress and i understand she was shocked but for a parent to say that about there own grandchild is disgusting,i have forgiven her but i will never forget.Although it gets easier it really is not worth the stress,can you distance yourself from him for a while?thats what i did....i moved 4hours away from the old bag lol

[missymay34]

My dad was so upset with my hubby for getting me pregnant again. He went as far as telling my husband to get snipped or leave me and the kids alone. When I found out I was so upset but it was almosy too late my husband left me and our daughter when I was only 8 weeks pregnant. We did get back together but it caused a huge family rift between us all. Now I will be delivering in a few weeks and we are on speaking terms with my dad again just keep him at arms legnth away yet.

[katngary143]

Ya im sure your dad is in shock just give him time and just concentrate on u and the baby he will come around

[Franky91]

Yes my dad was fuming he wanted me to get an abortion I also cried myself to sleep for three days in a row but a couple months down the line am now 22 weeks 5 days and my dad is actual lookin forward to being a papa and is sorry about wantin me to get an abortion

[kelly032913]

I went thru this with my mom last time I was prego. She told me to abort and I refused so she said I pray you miscarry and that night I did. She was crying for 2weeks cause she blamed herself. I think your dad is just in shock since your still his baby girl(even tho your 21). Just give him some time and space. Hopefully he will come around. Good luck! :)

[Cupcake2191]

@krizi
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I hope you never experience such a hurtful situation again. Thank you for sharing :)

[krizi]

Its my baby ,not hers, goodluck i hope he can get over it especially when your baby comes around (=

[krizi]

So my advice to you is TRY YOUR HARDEST not to stress and dont listwn to your dad ,because every child is considered a blessing,and its your choice what to do with your baby, its tough dealing with parents like that,i havent told my mom yet about this pregnancy because of what happened last time,because regardless what she wants or thinks,

[Cupcake2191]

I really appreciate you ladies helping me out, i felt a little bad about myself tonight & i don't want to stress over this. I hope all turns out well. Good luck on all your pregnancies btw :3

[Cupcake2191]

I really appreciate you ladies helping me out, i felt a little bad about myself tonight & i don't want to stress over this. I hope all turns out well. Good luck on all your pregnancies btw :3

[krizi]

I experienced it last pregnancy i told my mom,v she claims to be so "churchy" yet she told me so many times to get an abortion we ended up fighting physically well she put her hands on me numerous times cus i would never hit my mom,she constantly argued with me so i just packed my bags and left to my boyfriends house cus it got to the point where i couldnt even be around her,& me & my mom usually get over our argumwnts very quickly,but it was different,by the time she cooled down,i just wasnt hearing it anymore cus she went to the extwnt of telling me i should move and anyways she stressed me out so much that i believe shes the one who caused me to miscariag

[Cupcake2191]

Have you worked through this issue with your mom? Did things start to mellow out?

[ftmjuly13]

At first my dad was upset because he still sees me as his baby. But now he's excited maybe he just needs a little time hun..

[Shirano]

He will come around, your his baby girl. It's hard for parents sometimes to be okay with the fact that their children are having children.

[kimisup]

My mom told me she would make me get rid of my baby it takes time he will.come around

[Cupcake2191]

We were estranged for a long time, but found new ground to tread this past year. I'm 21 years of age, great job,my own apartment that my boyfriend doesn't live in with me, so im trying to figure out why it's the end of the world to him.

[katngary143]

R u close with your dad and how old r u ?