freaking out need to vent

[tyffy]

So i just turned 20 and I'm going to be 10  weeks tomorrow. I'm kind of happy to be having a baby but at the same time I'm so worried. My childs father and i aren't.exactly together but we've known each other going on five years. Most of that time either he had a gf or i had  a bf.  And we were out of touch for about a year and a half. We got back together last August  and i found out i was pregnant  in March. I told him and all he could say  was its not like he didn't expect it since we were doing what we were doing (no protection)....recently he has been stepping  up kind of...making sure me and the baby are ok and he said he would come with me to my next appointment which is next week....but once again he has pulled one of his normal disappearing acts which is freaking me out.  We haven't spoken for eight days and usually when he disappears like this he's gone for almost two weeks and then says he got locked up...which has happened the at.least three times since February...its really starting to scare  me because we only speak on twitter and I'm scared to call his mothers phone because I've only met her once (before i got pregnant and she doesn't know)....I'm just scared he might be messing around on me or something which could be very likely seeing our past...i just don't know what to do because i don't want to continue the next seven months with him continuously disappearing on me  i was already super emotional about him before i got pregnant because he's my first love and now I'm like a hundred times more emotional and scared and I'm scared that's going to affect the baby :(

[rebeccaann11]

Maybe if his mom knew you were pregnant it might help get him in line. How old is he?

[brandilynn89]

I've been in this situation before, don't stress not worth your time or your health. Care for you and that baby don't show him all that attention. You don't need him to raise a baby, some women do it alone as well as I did. Your better off not worrying about him, or contacting his mother. All you need to do it pull away and only let him know about baby appts and if he doesn't respond well we all know that obviously he is to busy for it

[dandi2014]

Either way it is going to be awkward or strange. Just call his mom, explain briefly who you are and that you need to get in touch with him..
you will need to have this convo at some point anyway.. right?

[Soon2BeMommyCelestina]

My bf acts like that. Bipolar ****. One minute he's ok then the next minute he's acting brand new

[tyffy]

She doesn't know me that well so I'm not sure she'd be all too happy if i call her and ask what's going on with her son...the day i met her i literally was in her presence for two minutes before going to his room...i don't even know if she would remember me i haven't been there since like November or December...and the annoying thing about it is he doesn't necessarily have a phone....the last time i knew it was off again....we only really communicate through twitter...he doesn't have a fb and he hardly uses his instagram....my only connection is  twitter or calling the house phone and i might have to search for that number online

[dandi2014]

Why not call his mom?
You have every right to be concerned about his disappearance and she might be able to help.
You dont need to tell her all the details..like you're pregnant. Just say it is important you get in touch with him and ask her if she can let him know that you're looking to hear from him.

And get his phone number. He is having a child with you. Point that out and say the main communication should not be tgrough Twitter.

good luck hun:)

[MandaPanda29]

Worrying the way you are can hurt the baby. What you really need to do is focus on you and the baby only. Bringing that little one into the world should be your only concern. I'm six weeks and six days pregnant with my second baby

[CindyLovesTito]

Just let him know how you feel...don't stress a lot the baby can feel how you're feeling.