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Drig dealer, Mom, drama. NEED ADVICE!
I honestly don't know what to do or how to feel. My mom hasn't always had the best relationships but for the past 10yrs she's been with a drug dealer. Everything was good at first with her boyfriend in mine and my brothers life, then of course we got older and involved with gangs and that life style. At 14 I got pregnant by a gang member of a different gang and had my son a month after I turned 15. I was sent away during my pregnancy because of my moms boyfriend. Anyways I had my son and was living with my mom and her boyfriend and obviously couldn't support my self or my son. I never agreed with who or what my moms boyfriend was and always had problems with it. Once my son was 1 1/2yrs old he met his father and his family, things are going good and my mom starts to get jealous of us always being at the dads house. Finally we decide to work things out and be a family and try to fix our lives. We both stopped going out, cut our friends off, he is getting his gang tattoos removed and also studying the bible. That's how its been for almost a year. Around April/may I moved out of my moms house because of her boyfriend and its been drama since. I don't let my mom take my son unless I am there because she brings him around her friends which are always drinking or smoking and just plain ghetto and her drug dealing boyfriend always has people in and out the house, I honestly don't feel my son is safe in her care because of who she is with and around and her influence. I allow her in my house after the countless arguments she's caused her and told my son I'm a ***** and other names. Now myson is going to be 3 in a month and im pregnant with my second at 18. I work to support my family and my children's father is support and help a lot and I don't want anything to do with my mom because I don't want the stress while I'm pregnant, she is with holding my sons social from me and I'm kinda scared to make this problem even bigger and that she will get physical with me. There's so much and she acts like a child.
I honestly think you should call the cops on her. She cant say anything about your boyfriend being older because she allowed it and your 18 now so the cops aint worried about that if you were under aged then that would be something they would worry about trust me. The cops will escort you to and in her home to get things that are yours
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But her boyfriend still deals drugs and if she always his your son around her drinking smoking friends then that still isnt right. If she calls the cops you can tell them about her boyfriend. Or if she takes you to court tell them how she is. If it truley isnt a good situation you'll get passed it. I say tell her she can come around but he can't. And she has to visit you and your son or when she takes him you have to be there until she gets your trust back . if he's just her boyfriend and not family then there's really no need for him to be around and if she doesn't like that then that's to bad . if she really wants to be around her grandson she'll respect your desicions and how you feel as a mother
But her boyfriend still deals drugs and if she always his your son around her drinking smoking friends then that still isnt right. If she calls the cops you can tell them about her boyfriend. Or if she takes you to court tell them how she is. If it truley isnt a good situation you'll get passed it. I say tell her she can come around but he can't. And she has to visit you and your son or when she takes him you have to be there until she gets your trust back . if he's just her boyfriend and not family then there's really no need for him to be around and if she doesn't like that then that's to bad . if she really wants to be around her grandson she'll respect your desicions and how you feel as a mother
She isnt on drug. My bd says she is because of her smell, but I dont think so because she doesn't look high and smells like ciggerates but he says people function fine on coke.
First of all if she's into drugs and gangs there is NOTHING for you to worry about she can't claim him she can't take him if she really wants to call the cops when then tell her to go ahead and do it all that's gonna happen is SHES gonna end up in jail for being a junky! You got out of that and so did your boyfriend you have your own lives and I'd cut her out of my sons life if I were you because that's bull-**** the way shes acting.
As for the social just call the social office andtell them wwhat's happening. I would actually request a completely different social if I were you because stephannieluvv is right she could sell it or use it to to find you if you ever try to leave so its a lot safer to just get a new one
As for the social just call the social office andtell them wwhat's happening. I would actually request a completely different social if I were you because stephannieluvv is right she could sell it or use it to to find you if you ever try to leave so its a lot safer to just get a new one
Well just let her know if she does claim your son you'll be turning her in for lying (just say that) and see what she says? Is your boyfriend on probation or anything?
If you can claim taxes before her and both of you try to claim him I think if you're first they'll give it to you and if he's on hers as well it'll hold her taxes up. If you don't trust her around him I wouldn't worry about the relationship. My daughter will be 3 in October. Her fathers side didn't agree with the fact that I'm American (they are Bosnian). They came to see her when she was born and have maybe seen her a handful of times since then. They don't try contacting us to see her we always made the effort. Its to the point that if we go over there she clings to me and usually cries if they try to talk to her. I'm 14 weeks tomorrow with the same father and we still haven't heard anything from them. I told his sister and several family members saw it on Facebook. But still nothing. I would do what you feel is best.
I'm actually scared to call the cops. Theres a 7yr age difference between me and my bd, I'm already 18 and my mom has told police before she doesnt want to press charges on him but now that it isn't her way she says she will call on him and I don't want him in trouble.
Yeah I'd probably call the cops on my mom if she was trying to pull that!! Especially because she can actually use your babies social or sell it and like you said she's saying she wants to claim him , I'd be pissed!!
Ive had my card replaced because she didn't give me it and it was free. But I want a whole new one for my son because she wants to use him on her taxes and I said no but don't trust her.
U can just contact the social security office and tell them u misplaced his card and they will give you another one I'm not sure how much or if it cost anything but yea stay away from the drama it's not safe or healthy for you
U can get a new social by contacting the social security office. I agree with u of cutting her off for being immature but maybe just meet in public places so your son has some relationship with her. Best of luck congrats it will all work out! Stay positive
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