high risk means no sex!!! :(

[angelmom324]

Is there any other momies who are not allowed to have sex during their pregnancy? How are u holding up? Is ur relationship the same?... I'm having a hard time just looking at my bd and not able to be intimate with him, but i have no choice, the safety of our baby is much more important...

[high_risk_prego]

I have been on bed rest and high risk since o found out I was pregnant. I am bearly 20 weeks still got another 20 to go. It's been hard for me and my husband I feel bad I feel so distant from him and I can't even kiss him cause it makes us both get well you know. This is (Tmi) but I have been having sex dreams and wake up with my belly very hard and tight it worries me but I don't know what I can do to not have the dreams. It scares me cause Dr told me no orgasims or nipple stimulation or any kind of sexual act. Anyways I know what u are going threw it ***** but the baby is more important.  

[Dani_Ziggy]

My fiance and I have barely had sex since we found out (I'm almost 9weeks) and then right as. I started to feel OK with it we found that we both had an STD contract from one of our exs and passes between us....so we git treated and have to abstain for at least a month to be safe....it's driving us nits and I really think he is upset with me about it. I think he blames me cuz my last ex and most recent long term nd was a sleeze who probably cheated on me....we fight all the time now about anything from money to what to watch on TV.

[NewMommy3269]

I'm a high risk pregnancy and my doctor has never mentioned anything to my boyfriend and I about not having sex. I'm about 30 weeks.

[NewMommy3269]

I'm a high risk pregnancy and my doctor has never mentioned anything to my boyfriend and I about not having sex. I'm about 30 weeks.

[sadies93]

You probably are over thinking it. He may not understand everything but im sure he understands alot. How far along are you?
In the begining I think its the hardest because of the morning sickness and adjusting to being pregnant.

[angelmom324]

i try to watch movies and stuff with him but he's not really into that stuff. Im always open with how i feel and i try my best to make him understand but Idk if he does. Im probably thinking too much about it, things are probably ok in his head and Im worrying for nothing.

[angelmom324]

I tried oral a few times but now that Im always so nauseous i can't, i make dinner when Im able to and sometimes i offer to give him a message but its just not the same.i always feel like Im failing

[sadies93]

I ment I found out when I was 4wks and am now 38wks lol sorry.
And I can relate a little bit to how you feel. In a way every thing is goin to change, but atleast he understands thay its for your baby.
I think what helped me and my fiance is improving our communication, after we stopped having sex I tried to be as open as I could with him to make sure he understood and felt apart of my pregnancy, and even tho sex has just been to painful for me, we try to do more things together like popcorn and a movie, diner and just sitting and talking, and as bad as he wanted sex my fiance felt bad because he knew how bad it hurt me but us always being open as well as we could and doin more things together really has helped us thru out my pregnancy

[agrell]

Can you at least try pleasing him...I know you can't but you could do things to him...I know they say sex isn't everything but it tends to be a big part of a decent relationship...I hope you guys can make it through without losing one another good luck love

[angelmom324]

Losing*

[angelmom324]

Im slow i misread that... I Feel like i don't really have a relationship, before i got pregnant we use to have sex all the time and now we just can't at all. I feel like everything is gonna change, i feel so insecure. He said he's ok with it because its for the safety of our baby but i just feel. like Im loading what we had

[angelmom324]

Ur 38 weeks and u just found out 4 weeks ago? Wow

[sadies93]

Im not high risk but me and my fiance have only had sex about 5 or 6 times since I been pregnant. Sex for me is just so painful and uncomfortable that I cant enjoy it or anything. I hate it because I want to feel close to my fiance and us not being intimate as much just makes me feel like im losing part of my relationship. I found out I was pregnant at about 4wks, I am now 38wks.