holding a grudge?

[michellemares]

Hi! I was just wondering if anyone else husband has been holding kind of like a grudge against them ever since they found out about their pregnancy?

[michellemares]

I think that's wht it is to that's why I have tried to understand him. But it got so bad that he would never be around I mean he already had a pretty busy schedule with his job and all and on top of it on the weekends he would go with his friends, I couldn't stand it anymore we talked about leaving each other but that's not something he wanted he said he would get over it once the baby came. As a result of that I came to another state for 2 weeks and now he doesn't ever stop texting meor calling me I've been here a week and he wants me to go back asap.

[AnnieBrooke]

Ditto Clysta.  My husband was angry and grumpy during my second pregnancy when we learned it was twins.  It was due to him being scared about money.  I miscarried, and always felt like he was secretly relieved, though once later when I said that to him, he was offended because he says he would have found a way to cope with the fear that we couldn't afford it.  But from experience, I can see it would have taken him a while, and in the meantime he was grumpy and touchy about almost anything.

[Clysta]

He's probably scared and nervous. Unplanned pregnancies are hard on anyone, and it can take several weeks for him to get used to it. Just give it some time and don't pester too much about it or ask for more details. Men sometimes need longer than women to come to grips.

[michellemares]

I don't really know what it is because he says he can't describe it. This baby was not planned so that has crossed my mind many times since I already had a child when we got together. He has been very suportive with me, he still loves me and wants us to be together but he says he has very little patience with me ever since my pregnancy.

[Ginger077]

Are you sure it's a grudge and not him being nervous about the costs of a baby? Maybe he is concerned about the time it's going to take to adjust to caring for a baby. Did you both plan this pregnancy? It may take time but I hope he will be supportive to you and your new family. Congrats!!

[michellemares]

I don't know, we talk about it but he says he can't describe it himself. I talked to my mom about it, she says it happened to her with all her 4 pregnancies. I don't know if this is normal it makes me feel depressed.

[momabear86]

why would he be holding a grudge?