venting.. need someone to talk to

[natassja97]

So my boyfriend has his heart set on moving with us.. because his mom is emotionally and physically abusive, she buys food for everyone in their house expect him.. and she makes him come in the house at a time that he'll never see his child when she gets here in 6 weeks !! So I'm talking to my mom about it and she's telling me it's not gonna happen.... I'm so heart broken Idk what to do!

[shaelouisebubba1]

Have you asked her why she's not okay with it?

[natassja97]

Yeah here in mn the housing program is strictly for struggling teens, and i thought about it asked and it doesn't change her mind

[shaelouisebubba1]

Does he have a job or anything? By offering your mom some kind of board/rent you might have a chance of having him stay with you. Bringing a baby in to a house is a big financial strain already.. adding boyfriend to that might just be too much for your mom. I know how expensive it is to pay for my own house with my partner working full time. Gas and electricity is a huge expense. It was soooooo much cheaper when it was just me.

[feliciaschult2325]

I live with my parents and my dad has this hole thing about us sleeping together which is fine I get it so we have bunk beds for when he moves in maybe she's worried about tall sleeping together I know it's kinda like it can't get any worse but just remember it is her house and try to compromise with her and maybe  she'll come around my parents really came around when they felt that I really respect there house I hope it works out. Good luck

[kay1027]

Idk about were you live but as far as I know (I could be wrong) but in AL you cant get your own place unless you are 18 or older. But good luck and I hope you can help him. He still needs to report it though

[natassja97]

And they have a housing program where i live, if you qualify you can pay no rent or under 100$ i have to apply then wait... I'm asking her if we can stay there until i get a place

[natassja97]

I'm trying.and that's what I'm trying to explain to her, and i get him food or he comes to my house to eat

[shaelouisebubba1]

Can he apply for his own apartment/flat and have you and baby with him?

[kay1027]

I would still try to convince your mom if you can but but your bf needs to get out of that house. How is he able to eat now?

[kay1027]

Okay he is a minor if she is abusing him in anyway he can report it.

[natassja97]

17

[kay1027]

If you don't mind me asking how old is your bf?

[natassja97]

I'm trying but she's so stubborn she's making this really hard

[inlovewithmybaby]

You guys need to work to get your own place..but try to convince your mom to let him stay there for awhile? It will be ok..he will see your baby!& when the baby comes the family will all get and work together!

[octomom23]

I went through the same thing with my boyfriend... Try explaining the situation to your mom..