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OK so I was just wondering for future reference and I'm pretty sure that every hospital is different but when I go to the hospital to deliver and I tell the father but he's not gonna be in the delivery room or I don't know when i will let him come to the room once the baby is born does he get a visitor badge or will they give him a father wrist band? I heard both ways. I just dont want him.to be able to hang out inbthe room all day and not let me have any time alone with the my son i just pushed out myself lol. Also do they leave the baby in the room with u now? Lol i guess i just wanna be able to control at least the hospital time....if he shows up at all that is....if not then his loss
DestanI, yeah I thought about telling him then too. That way I can have time with my son alone first. But I won't tell him what's going on until I'm at the hospital and in my room that way he can't meet me at the hospital when I get there and try to come up with me and think he's gonna be all up in the business. So I will definitely be stalling lol no need to rush up there anyways because it's gonna be awhile before t hthe baby actually comes out. And u never know about complications.
Yes thanks for reminding me that I just gotta tell the nurse. And i don't technically have to tell him but the lawyer I saw strongly advised it so that if Indo go to court the judge will see I've done all I'm supposed to. And all that I can to make sure he saw his child. But yeah I really really hope he is not Taft stupid to bring his girlfriend there. I honestly cannot fathom anyone really being that stupid nd yes information think the nurse informs the mother about who it is so even if he tries to bring her she won't be able romaine up to the maternity..plus I may just do like mrssandefur says and try to make it private. He's the one I'm worried about being stupid. Not anyone else. I'm probably Not going to ask any policy romaine up. Probably just wait til we get home for visitors. Ur really not there that long anyways. And honestly I think he should see his some. Maybe that will make him see how big of a jerk he has been and he will start treating our roles as parents trees with a like bit of respect and consideration since I'm considering him. Gnome or he at not show up at all.
yea you know you dont even have to tell him you are in labor until after you have the baby then he can come when you are ready for him to come.
Yeah I was going to.say, just make sure that they know, if you tell him to leave and he doesn't then they may have to escort him put, and like I said they will cause this about no one but you and baby! ESP with the girlfriend issue, hopefully he.doesn't try to.be that stupid but if so then all ya gotta say OS "Uh no get her put" and they will!
I would echo asking for a tour and asking the nurse your questions. We actually had an impromptu one last week at ours since we were there for an ultrasound and it occurred to ask about some updates that had been done since our daughter was born. The receptionist took us to the nurse's station at l&d and asked if someone was available to give us tour right then and there.
I do remember that when visitors arrived, the nurse would come in first to check if I was ready for a visitor rather than people just barging in (except my husband and my parents by the second day). Just a thought, but do you feel you *have* to tell him when you go to hospital? We simply didn't tell many people until after she was born and we were waiting to be discharged so we had visitors come to our house after we left the hospital. Just a thought...
I do remember that when visitors arrived, the nurse would come in first to check if I was ready for a visitor rather than people just barging in (except my husband and my parents by the second day). Just a thought, but do you feel you *have* to tell him when you go to hospital? We simply didn't tell many people until after she was born and we were waiting to be discharged so we had visitors come to our house after we left the hospital. Just a thought...
When I was getting admitted, I informed the nurse of the situation with my ex and I and let her know that if I dint want him there I would let them know and they may have to escort him out. They were perfectly fine with it. You just have to tell them what you want
Oh OK. Well that's actually a really good idea. That way I know exactly who will b coming up there. I just don't see how they can allow just anyone....but I guess since it's only 2 at a time and they wouldnt tthink anyone who is not welcome would come ip there anyways....all im saying iou s i hope he is noy so stupid as to bring his new gf with him and try to come see thd baby with her by his side. Lol i dont think that he nor anyone else could evrr b that stuck on stupi. Cuz that would b just sad and i hopefully wont throtyle someone llmao
At mine they just come back there but like I said see if you can be listed as private. Then even if they're walking down the hall way, your name wont be on the door at all. With me they put my Drs name as my name and his partners name as my Drs name.
Yeah mine does tours every week too I think. But I've visited friends at that same hospital but the last time was a couple years ago. But when I went u went to the security desk u give them your license and they give u a sticker for your shirt and then a maternity visitor tag. There's only 2 of those. I can't remember if they called her and told her who wanted to see her or if someone came down to get me. I will defense b going to the tour. I am just curious as to how things are gonna go on that part anyways.
Every hospital has its own way of doing things. Mine has a special locked entry, people can't just wander in, they have to buzz and identify themselves and stop at the front desk. We also get to keep the baby with us at all times (except for 3 hours when they're doing the inital exam on the baby), asleep or not. The best way to get your questions asked is to see if your hospital gives tours of the maternity ward. Mine does it every week, and you can ask questions like these then.
I just talked to the hospital and they said I get to pick who gets the partner wristband which is the one who will stay over night and then 2 other people get them but it's a different one. And then everyone else can come visit. I think it's only 2 at a time too. So at least I have a little comfort that I won't be forced to have him in there. That was my biggest fear. She said since we are not married he doesn't get any special privilege he s. Thank goodness! Lol
I know at my hospital, they ask me who I want in the room with me. They will write down the names of the people who I want to have the wristbands and only those people will have them.
Yeah I understand! Just tell your hospital you wanna be listed as private and then tell your.nurses when he's coming and when you want him.to.leave. You wont be forced to.have him.in there if you don't want him in there
Yeah that's what I heard for my hospital too. I just don't wanna be forced to have him in there if I'm not up for it...at least I just don't want him staying for a long time. Not that I wanna keep him away. He can see him but on my time. Cuzco hey I did just have a baby lol at least at that time I will b
Yeah he can go to.the security desk and say he's the father but without YOU agreeing and with out a paternity test (which seems from.what you're saying you wouldn't consent to and.he'd have to get court ordered which will take.time) then.they don't give a.square what he says. If you don't put him down they basically wont believe him.is what it'll come to.
At my hospital there are only three wrist bands issued one for baby one for mamma and then a third party, weather that be daddy a grandparent a friend or whatever. Now they also have where you can set up that you're private if anyone calls they have to.know your room.number in order for them to call your room.or ask questions (including if youre there). Which means you would have.to.tell each individual person that you want to.know, what hospital and.room.you're in or else they just get told "We have no one by that name". So that's an option if your hospital offers it, then when you're ready you can tell him what room.to.come to and just tell your nurse "Hey I want him gone by this time and I'll.ask.him to.leave but if he refuses can you have him escorted out please?" They will do so.simply because YOURE the one who just had the baby and YOURE the one who.needs.all the rest and.not to get stressed out and upset. As far as them.leaving the.baby with you 24/7, they only.let you keep.baby with you here.at my hospital as long as you.or someone you or.your spouse have deemed responsible are awake. So someone has to.be awake at all times in my hospital.or they take the baby to.the nursery. I know with both my boys I'd stay up.all night while daddy/friend slept and keep.my baby in.there with.me then.in the.morning once they've gone and eaten and come back or someone else came in or whatever then I'd let them.take over and I'd sleep and they'd wake me to.feed him.and if he pooped lol
Well he's not my husband and I didn't list him on the registration paperwork as anything. If he's not gonna come and go as he pleases then he shouldn't need it. ESP since he's not staying over night or going mg to be driving us home the next day. Can he justice to t he security desk and say he's t he father
They typically leave the baby in the room with you 24/7 unless you requedt them to take the baby so you can sleep. Also if the baby has complications they will of course take.him. at my hospital they give the husband a band to wear, which enables him to come in and out as he pleases. You might have to request him to not get one if your deadset on him not being there
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