Aa
so done..!
My husband and I live with his mom, we got custody of his children from his previous marriage.... I have certain rules being that I am with them 90% of the time... and if they come home from school with bad reports they go to bed 15 minutes early... today they both got introuble so their bed time is 830 rather then 845 and his mom comes home and tells me to let one stay up and not the other, when they both got introuble and now my husbands pissed at me because I said it was unfair. So now i feel like im hated by not only his kids but everyone else, too. Like I just wanna give up! :/
Do u have ne community places there that offer affordable housing... I wud keep expresing to ur husband the fact that ur there w his kids cuz u want to be not cuz u have to be nd he needs to respect that.. my husbands first son was 4weeks whn we got together so I helped raise him... My husband before we got married cheated on me nd actually got the grl pregnant nd we didn't met her till she was one her mom at 1st wud tell her daughter she didn't have to listen to me but I laid down the law real fast to the mother my husband nd the daughter .. these situations r tricky nd they do cause a lot of probs but it takes patience nd hard work ... My mother in law use to have probs w me disiplining my step kids but I simply told her I f**k my husband not her I run my house hold nd i disipline my kids so if my step kids r w me the same rules apply to them aswell nd eventually I got everyone's respect even tho I didn't care if they agreed or not.. I wish u the best of luck nd it is stressfull hun but do not let up
Ive tried. Last time it caused bigger problems then just the stress ive had. I didnt mind that they wanted them to stay up later, I cared that one childs being treated differently..... and were saving up to get our own place but, I can only work part time being that their mothers not a part of their lives and my husband works full time..
O heck no!!!, my husband has two other kids nd whn they r at my house they follow my rules my husband knows not to under mind me whn one of us punishes the kids it sticks u need to have a serious convo w him... As for his mom it is her house so basically her rules over rule ur rules so that wudnt really be an argument .. maybe yall Cud get yalls own house I mean yall r married and have kids so that way u wud never have to worry bout wht his mother thinks ... Sorry hun I knw it ***** but neone woman who has her own house usually makes the rules of her kingdom
There definitely need to b a talk between u ur hubby n his mother to establish ground rules!!! U r the kids parent just as well as ur husband. N ur rules and boundaries need to be respected!!!! N speakin ur mind my cause a little tension but it needs to be done!!!!!!
Ive been following your posts and u sound like a super great mom. I agree u need to speak up and set ur rules to both ur hubby and ur mother in law. My husband isn't the father of my two boys but I don't get in when he disciplines them u need to tell them they have to back u up 100%. ur trying ur best to be a good mom and they are stepping all over u don't give up! ")
I understand completely. You need to have a talk with your husband and set some rules with him and let him know and if he can't then you do what you have to fr you and the baby. And talk with his mother and let her know also. Cause you don't need the stress. But hun you have to speak up and say something or it will get worse
Im so scared! Im due in 14 weeks and I just know the back talking and the counter parenting and all the other bull is going to get ten times worse !
No reason to give up I understand. My boyfriend has been in jail since December 31 and the rules are bad grades no games. My boyfriends mom says also no games on school days these are his kids. Well his young son is failing every class I say no games and she also says no games he gets on games anyway I say something to him he tells I hate u go back where u came from and is totally disrespectful. So I completely understand and my baby is due in 7weeks talk about pulling my hair out
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