Another miscarrage

[missingolivia]

Well some of you know i just resently found i was preg again. Today i found out that i had miscarried again. I'm hurt and upset but i'm not devastated like i was when i miscarried my first baby at 18 wks.  I am at my wits end i feel like i will never have children. My hubby is mad because he says i have a poor attitude about it.  I'm just sick and tired of being let down.  And this is not the only thing that i have been let down in in my life and i'm just so sick and tired of walking this path and have no way of escaping.  I feel like i'm doomed for life!

[missingolivia]

thank you for your condolences and prayers and kind words.  I think for me its just time to give up on the thought of having a baby.  Its not so bad just haveing dogs and cats :) .
I just dont want to try anymore. this time it was not so bad, but when i had that still born at 18wks and 5 days that was the worse thing anyone could go through. One week the heart beat is strong and wonderful and then the next its not there.  At least this time the baby didnt even get to have a heartbeat, i think at least it didnt would not know because never had an ultrasound. So i hope it did not have a heart beat, it makes it better in a way you know whati mean? At least he or she didnt have a chance to be in this world and get taken from it.  and i know some of you gals out there have had more then two miscarrages a lot lot further along then me and i'm sorry that happend, but some of us are not as strong as others, and i will say that i'm a week one and just have to deal with that.  

thank you all again  and i wish you all lots and lots of big giant bags full of baby dust

[babyscience]

So sorry you are going through this.  I have also had a miscarriage and it took a while for us to get preggo, so I know just a touch of what you are going through.  I felt like giving up so many times and just wondering if it will ever happen.  The thing that helped me get thru it all was I thought of all my options...fertility treatment...adoption etc.  I knew I would have children someway some how so it helped get my mind off of it.  Then I got preggo again...I had to take progesterone sups to keep it and now I have a little boy!  Keep your head up and I will send a bid bag of baby dust your way.

[shasy03]

You are in my thoughts and prayers.  I feel the same as you when am I going to get a break?  It's been 15 long months and 2 miscarriages in 2 years.  Keep being strong it will happen when the time is right.  I know you may not want to hear that because it doesn't give comfort but that was the best advice given to me.

[sweetangel7]

Hugs and prayers!

[Jen133]

I'm sorry for your loss.  I can imagine what you must through. I will keep you in my prayers. <<<<>>>>

[laura1985]

i am keeping you in my prayers.

[Latrice414]

I agree with Dani and Pink. I only had one m/c and felt like the world was ending, not to add my DF was very insensitive, my father actually had to talk to him and explain what women go threw and how he should respond.  Im so sorry that you are going threw this again, your not alone, take time to heal emotionaly and physically, i tell myself i want a baby so bad, i probably dont need one at the present time. But i guess god will bless me when its my time that i need one, i dont like that concept but its true. When its your time, you will have Joy again.  I will keep you in my prayers (((((((hugz))))))))))))0

[catlady171]

i understand how you feel. when i had my first m/c. i was so hurt and upset and i few months later i had found out i was pregnant again and had another m/c. and i felt just the way you do, like there was something wrong with me and wondered why i couldnt carry a baby anymore. and i felt like i would never be able to again. it took time but i did eventually come to terms with it. and i agree with dani77, its hard to understand until it happens to someone. i just dont think males can even come close to understanding the feeling because they arent the one who are pysically going threw it. when i went threw it i spent alot of time with my close friends and in situations where i wasnt thinking about it alot. and alot of time away from my bf. and honestly, that helped alot!

[richeygirl]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Dani77]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have also had 2 miscarriages. My OB/Gyn says that they won't do any kind of fertility "work up" unless I miscarry again. You may have come across the same thing, and I understand the frustration. I also understand the grief of losing a pregnancy. Take time to heal from this. My partner was also insensitive. I think it is because no one really knows what it is like to miscarry until it happens to them. Just take your time dealing with this, and get help if you get depressed. I was incredibly depressed for 3 months after my last miscarriage. *hugs* You are not alone.

[pinkladybug]

Your husband just must be dealing with it differently then you! But he really needs to understand where you are coming from!!! It was your body that carried it and you had to make all the changes! He may just be thinking positive! You should really sit and talk to him about what both of you are going through! He may also just be hiding his feelings because he can see how upset you are and doesnt want you to feel more upset! Im sorry you are going through this!!